Getting older is not easy. While you have those who celebrate getting older, you have those few who aren’t ready to face the fact of life. However, getting older for women is much harder than men. We have to deal with audience of curious eyes watching our every move, as we get older. No matter what we accomplish, it always the little things that everyone seem to notice other to than our current success. I was blessed with parents that loved me no matter what, whether I was married with kids; or single and happy. Either way they love me, nonetheless everyone aren’t so lucky. Well, since the holiday season are coming upon us, it not an easy time to be single. We get it you guys had high hope for us, but just because it going a little slower than we expected doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Some don't mind the usual line of questioning. However, you will have those few who wish you would leave them the fuck alone. So, here are the five questions not to ask singles people during the holiday season.
“When are you having kids?”
It was shown that women are having children at a later rate, due to unforeseen circumstances. I get it, my 16-year-old cousin beat me to the punch of having a child first so, everyone looking at me wondering, “when am I having kids?”. it nothing more disrespectful then to asked someone when they're having children. No one know the true tale why one wait to have a child. Nor, is it anyone business why one chose to wait. Sometimes people want to get their life in order before bringing the child in the world. If you notice black women aren’t allowed to rest, so give us time before having a kid. Some of us actually want to be married before having a child and finding love these days aren’t exactly an easy task anymore. So, please save yourself from asking this question cause the answer is the same as last year.
Believe it or not women hate this question more than the first. When you have been single for an extended amount of time it seem like everyone have given on you finding love, more than you did. When you was in college, it was easy to explain why you haven't find love yet. But now, they blame you. A woman can have three businesses, a house, great credit, and three cars but if she ain’t married then she consider damaged good in the eyes of her family. So, every year it seem like your aunt, or grandma literally wait until you are in a room full of people to ask why you not married yet. And usually you have an answer ready. But now, you just want everyone to stay the fuck out your business. Finding love isn’t on every woman agenda. Some women want to accomplish some personal goals before settling down. Nonetheless, if love happen to find us while we are on our journey then we will welcome it with opening arms. However, please don’t asked me when I’m getting marred or better yet, don’t asked me the next question.
“Why haven’t you found a man yet”
Coming in the holiday season single is the worst. Not because you single, it like everywhere you go, you’re the third wheel. And people still invite you just to give you those pity looks like it the end of the world you're alone. However, before you deal with the outside, you have to deal with your family first. Before you get hit with the “Married” question, you will get with this question first. Like I said before, finding love isn’t on everyone agenda. And this dating pool isn’t exactly the best when it comes to finding love. So, it’s taking us longer to find the right one. And to be asked this question over and over again knowing it was just as hard for them to find love get old. Yes, it would be nice to find love before the holiday season, but some would whether wait than to have another failed relationship under their belt. And hell, these days, most people are just looking for a pot to piss in and a free meal during the holiday season so be careful before you go sharing your relationship this season.
“Let me set you up on a date”
We all have that family member, or friend of the family that has this amazing person for us. They tell you how great this person, and you sit there listening and wonder if this guy so great then why is he single? Sometimes a blind date can lead you to a great person. However, most of the time this person feel same way you do and doesn’t want to be set up with anyone. No one want a pity date, or a pity relationship with pity kids. No thank you! Relatives, and friends are notorious at offering to play match maker. Don’t fall for it. We understand their intentions are in the right place, but it is not a grave matter that needs outside intervention unless you really want a hook up. No matter how hard they push just say no.
“What happened with your last boyfriend”
In all of my dating history, my family has only met two men and only one man has ever met my extended family. The reason being cause if you bring one bad apple around your family, they will never let you live it down. You can damn near bring Michael B. Jordan home next, and your family will still bring up the time you brought home that bum who wore a Facebook shirt when they first met him. Nonetheless, all jokes aside no one want to be reminded of the last person you dated. But that what happen when you bring a new guy to every holiday season. You bring a new guy around so much, that they can't no longer keep up. However, you have that one guy that your family grew to love, and he became like family. But who cares? would be the appropriate answer, but you don’t want to sound like a bitch and upset about your relationship status. Your ex could be from four years ago. So, to continue to be the subject of discussion whenever family gets together, and it sucks. Who cares if they bonded with them? It's done and in the past can we please move on?
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