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When Your Soul is Tied to An Unhealthy Soul

I didn’t think a love could be unhealthy until I met my first love. Like I said before I was young, and dumb I had many chances to shift my focus but chose to focus on the wrong things. But I realize that I needed these mistakes, in order to be the woman I am today. Now, let be clear when it comes to my mistakes in life and love I don’t blame anyone but me. A person will only take full advantage of you if you let them. Sometimes a person can used you, and you won’t fully realize it until it too late. But let be real when it comes to love we all know there are signs when a person doesn’t bring good to your soul. We see them all the time but stay in hope that it will change and get better. However, even when we see that person won’t change their ways we still stay cause a half relationship is better than no relationship (trust I been there). So, that is how an unhealthy soul tie build. I knew that man wasn’t good enough for me, but I didn’t want to be alone. He was only there when he needed a favor. I settle in many ways more than one. I wasn’t happy psychically and I wasn’t happy mentally. He was just there, so I didn’t have to say that I was single. I knew he was messing around but, in my mind as long as he knew where home was he was free to do whatever he wants.

He didn’t have regard for no one but himself, which left me paranoid. I would spend most of my time wondering what he’s doing, and who he was with. It would get so bad to the point I couldn’t sleep at night. The emotional side, which was clearly flawed, wanted to make this man love me. Convinced there was something I could do to get him to see that I could be all he ever needed. Until I finally saw he couldn’t see it and I no longer existence in this relationship (to be 22, and dumb). Until one day I saw that this was a pattern that I had to break before it become of me. So, I just left and decided to make a change. The crazy part is he didn’t seem to care until six years later. That when he hit me up on Facebook, but I just blocked the message and didn’t even read it; didn’t see the point in doing so.

Soul ties can be healthy or unhealthy. As one tells us that no man should separate what God has joined together. So, there are ties that are healthy and we want to protect. Cause people can enter your life and change you for the better. But there are also ties that are unhealthy that tie us down to the point we create a fear of opening up again. And those are the type of soul ties usually comes from a sexual soul tie which is the hardest to break. In a healthy relationship, sex is used to unify two people in a way that is nurturing and empowering. It’s the manner in which a couple shows their love and commitment to one another. However, when you’re in an unhealthy relationship, sex causes you to tie your soul to someone who is damaging your spirit. In which you will become more damaged, damn near worse off than you were before you enter the relationship. While it is fairly easy to recognize healthy and emotionally rich soul ties, it’s not as easy to identify the unhealthy ones. As one woman said it’s no greater drug than a man that can tap inside your mind, and spirit. Once the wrong demon gets inside your soul, it hard to break yourself free. Can sex be the blame? Maybe because sex can be a drug to a weak mind. Especially once the right man taps into your sexual side like no other man have ever done before. As much as I love sex, I warned many that sex can be blinding to the mind.
As difficult and as painful this may be. There is no easy way to “cut the ties or bond” of a soul tie. Because this would be like removing a piece of yourself.  You build a bond that not easy to break, but you have to in order to find peace. Your Twinflame is the deep energetic side of who you are. This person knows you better than you know yourself. However, just because they know you doesn’t mean they’re good for you. Even if you haven’t met or had a relationship. Soul-mates have many ways in entering in our lives, creating some type of impact that will change our lives forever. Whether that impact is good or bad time will only tell. Even as years past, and the season change that person stay in the back of our mind even when we’ve move on. To fully heal a soul tie, you'll have to take time to separate and look within to fully capture and process the lessons that this relationship has taught you, so you can move on to the next relationship more consciously. So regardless of which way you slice it, soul ties relationships have meaning in our lives and while many of us have been through more than one, we just continue to build and take with us all those teachings to be wiser and improve for the next relationship. You are bound to this person only by an unhealthy tie and once you heal, the soul ties this person have over you will be gone forever. If your former partner does not change, that's their karma, not yours. It not our job to heal another if they’re not ready to change one day we will learn that. But as I always say what do I know, I’m just here to share my thoughts on my journey of self.
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