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When A Man Have Commitment Cold Feet...

It’s 3:30 am and you get that text “what you doing?”, by now you’re used to getting this text at this time of night but tonight feels different. Right now, you're thinking about the pros and cons of laying down with him again. When you first met him, you felt like you hit the lottery. Finally, after years of dating the worse of the worse he walks into your life. You still remember the first time you met him, his game was different he didn’t come to you like every other man, he came to you how a man should approach a woman. He made you feel like the search was over and you’ve finally met Mr. Right after years of pain; and heart ache. He was the first voice you heard in the morning, and the last voice you heard at night. He made you feel like a queen, and cater to your every need. But as you’re building this bond with him, cutting off other men and putting your all into building a future with him, then he tells you that he’s not ready for a serious relationship. He shares with you h…

My Letter of Self Love: Love Yourself On Valentine's Day

Today someone sent me a picture of you and I cringed. I cringed and couldn’t delete the picture fast enough. I cringed because of the thought of the hurt that I allowed you to put me through, made me question myself. I cringed at the fact that I was so broken that I allowed you the opportunity to break me even more. I cringed because I unknowingly gave you the permission to use, misuse and abuse me. I cringed because I subconsciously gave you the instructions on how to handle me…. and as much as I don’t want to admit it, the instructions never stated to handle with care. You handled me carelessly because I allowed you to. You handled me carelessly because my actions taught you how to. I taught you how, by constantly forgiving you for the same stuff over and over again. I taught you how to, by not setting a standard and sticking to it. A ding here, I forgave you… a ding there... I forgave you…then eventually I broke. I shattered!! And you left me more broken than ever before. And I hat…

Dating in Memphis: Blame It on The Alcohol

So, I have multiple dating horror stories but I'll start with the funniest one. Now mind you I was young (like 21), dumb, and stupid when this situation occurred. So, my dumb butt thought it would be a good idea to go on Tinder and look for a potential beau (My first eff up). I matched with this guy we'll call Kevin. Kevin was cute, funny, had a degree, and was in the military. It was bonus that he knew some of my close friends and we went to the same university. We exchanged numbers and talked for a while. He hit me up one night as asked if I wanted to go out with him. I was like "Hell Yeah!" Now I'm old school, I prefer a man to ring my doorbell and shit. He pulls up in my driveway while I'm getting stuff out of my car. He had this really nice souped up Mustang (I have a thing for mustangs shoot me). He gets out of the car but he's still standing by the driver seat. I'm walking towards the passenger door and he tells me to walk to his side and there…

Dating in Memphis: Dating While Broke

Giiiiirrrrrlllllllllllll!!!!!!
So, this one time I went on a date with a guy. He talked about this date for 2 weeks. He wanted me to dress up and everything. So of course I put on my freakum dress. We get there. We sit down. Conversing and I’m doing the cute little laugh. Flirting with my eyes. We order our food. Having a nice time. Bill comes. He gives the waitress his card. Now where I’m sitting I can see her swipe the card. She swipes the card (1x) i look back at him he’s still talking. So I’m nodding like yeah...she swipes it a (2nd) time I sit up...biiii she swipes it a (3rd time) I have sat all the way with my elbows on the table. Baby she comes back to the table and says sorry sir your card declined. He starts looking frantic. I’m sitting there staring at him like ummmmm...I’m not about to bust no suds so you better figure it out..he trying to transfer money from his saving to checking...it’s not working because it’s the weekend. I ended up paying. Baby he dropped me off, i inst…