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Dating In Memphis: Top 5 Signs You're on A Bad First Date

Dating in Memphis is hard. I was asked by someone is Dating in Memphis, really that bad? It’s obvious answer to that question so I will let my readers answer it for me. While I could blame solely the men on this one. I have to point at the women as well, look now you know I’m a straight shooter. We're all guilty of this. When we’re having a bad date it’s signs that let you know that this will be the last time you’ll see this person. While sometimes you do know the signs, it other times that you don’t (or you just don’t care). Well I’m here to show you the signs that you’re on a bad date. Look, it's no such thing as a perfect first date just perfect moments. However, these signs will let you know if you've wasted a perfectly good outfit on an asshole.

You’re on The Phone the Whole Time
Now, I’m all for checking my phone from time to time on a date. However, spending the whole date on the phone is rude as fu*k. How can you get to know someone when you spending, half the date lying on social media like you on the best date in the world? But seriously, turn your damn phone off. Put it away. Only check it for emergencies (if you have children). This is common courtesy. Respect the person next to you and don’t get distracted by usually lies of social media. You spend your whole life on your phone. You can go one night without your phone, Trust.

You Look like Sh*t
I’m not a dressy person so I get that sometimes you have those “fu*k it” moment. Furthermore, your first date isn’t the best time to have that moment. She/he took the time to fix themselves up, at least make the same effort. Don’t come in there looking like you just woke up. Therefore, no one said you have to be suit and tie. But a clean nice shirt, and a good pair of jeans won’t hurt you. If you show up looking like you didn’t put in any effort how do you expect your date to show any interest in you? Wear something nice hell. It doesn’t have to be fancy but at least look like you took the time to prepare to see this person. It’s the simple things, people.

Lack of Effort of Planning The Date
Your job doesn’t end after you ask that person on the date. Look, I don’t get why men think that a “home date” is a date. I don’t know shit about you, but you want me to trust you and come your home on the first date who does that? We’re not asking for a $500 date, hell not even a $100 or a $50 date. However, we’re asking for effort. A date can actually be free, if you took the time to plan it right. But don’t ask me on the first date or any date (until I build a trust in you) to “Netflix & Chill”.

You’re too thirsty/ Expecting Some “Cutty”
If you haven’t been with someone in a long time and you miss lying next to someone that desperation will be like a loud perfume. No one want to be with a desperate person. Only time a person wants to be with someone who’s desperate when they’re looking for one thing. Which bring me to this, look shit happen. When it comes down to sex it really doesn’t matter how long you wait to sleep with someone. Some wait three months, while some wait three hours. So, it doesn’t matter how long you wait cause a person can dump you before or after you have sex with them. However, if you’re expecting a sex on the first date then you’re an asshole. Get to know that person before you try, and sleep with them. Don’t get pissed or disappointed if the date doesn’t go any further. If a person feels the same way, then trust me they will let you know. However, buying a person a 4 for $4 doesn’t mean you deserve some on the first date, just saying.

You’re Talking about Your Ex
Of course, before you get serious with anyone your past is "need to know" information. Nonetheless, it’s a limit to how much you share on the first date. If they ask you about your relationship history then sure, let them know what up. But if you spending the whole date discussing how great your ex was – or what a shitty person they were then you’re only going to look A. bitter and B. not over it. In Memphis, it way too many people with the “hurt people hurt syndrome”, and if you’re not over your ex than just wait. It takes time to get over someone you once loved. No one is telling you when to get over them, but don’t take that pain out on someone else cause you wasn’t vocal to speak on how you felt when you had the chance. Share your past but know when to cut that shit off.

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