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It Not You It Me: Signs They're Ruining The Relationship

As I always say be careful what you asked for because you might just get it. When it come to the game of love, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Either way you will leave with a prize of a lifetime lesson that will teach you how to carry your next relationship. When I look back in time when I was relationship hungry, I see why I had so many failed relationships. I realize that I didn’t want a relationship, I just wanted the title. Furthermore, once I got the title that when I realize that I wanted a real relationship but not with that person. Which lead me to do anything to destroy the relationship. And I didn’t do no simple self-destruction, I did shit that lead them to block me from their lives altogether. Which lead me to this list, when a person says "it not you it me" best believe they’re telling you the truth. Sometimes we just want a relationship because of social media, or to fill a void in our lives that’s missing. Well this is where once again I step in (this is my last list until next month). When we’re hurting people sometimes we realize it, then sometimes we don’t. Therefore, we are reflecting the same pain someone will eventually reflect on us. So, here are the top signs they're ruining the relationship.

You can't seem to do anything right

Once you get to the point where you feel like everything you do upsets him or annoys her, and you're tiptoeing around in your own relationship, you need to understand that you aren't the problem it them. There is something with which your significant other is unhappy with themselves and he or she isn't communicating that to you nor are they trying to. Until he or she is honest with you on why they are really frustrated, nothing you do will seem to be enough. This is the first sign that they’re not ready for a serious relationship. No relationship is perfect, but if they are looking for a perfect relationship then they not the one for you.

Being manipulative to get what they want
No one want to be with a person that always have to have their way. Due to people’s defenses and desire to protect themselves, it can be easy for couples to play games and be indirect about their wants and needs. So, they start to engage in manipulative behavior to get what they want, such as trying to control a situation by crying and blowing up about every small situations. They don’t see how acting like this is hurting the relationship altogether. This may take different forms in different aspects of the whole relationship. The whole "I hate it when you do that, but I'm just going to keep it to myself and throwing shady little side glances" is unnecessary. Once you're not comfortable being direct with your spouse, you've lost that bond on which your relationship was initially built on.

Bringing Negative Energy in The Home
Feeling uncomfortable or tense around someone is just how your body react to the negative energy surrounding the two of you. Negativity can drain you mentally, physically and emotionally. We're forced to deal with this stuff on a day to day basic, but your mate should be the last person to give you that type of stress. Your mate is supposed to be your peace. The last thing you need after a long day is to come home to negativity. No matter how hard life can hit you, you should never bring your stress home with you. However, if your mate bringing you down and taking out their problems on you then it’s time to either fix the problem or just leave the relationship altogether.

They See Growth and Change as a Negatives

Relationships must evolve in order to last. The whole "why can't things just stay like this" mentality isn't conducive for a long-term relationship. At some point, someone will want more. That's not a bad thing, but both parties must be on the same page in order for it to happen. There's nothing wrong with taking the next step together; doing so is a sign of maturity. Which is where strong communication comes back into play. No matter how much you love a person how can you be happy staying at level 1 in your relationship? Nobody can stay truly happy in a “safe relationship”, trapping yourself in a “safe relationship” will leave you looking for more. One can’t grow without the other, but you can’t let no one hinder your growth as well.

You're just not happy anymore

What it really comes down to is happiness.You don't have to justify why you aren't happy in your relationship anymore. It isn't realistic to expect to be happy in every moment of your relationship, but as a whole, this person should make you happier no matter what. He or she should make you feel supported and capable of doing whatever the hell it is you want to do with your life. You should know that even though you don't have control of every aspect of your life, this person supposed to give you stability. He or she supposed to helps you rebuild and gives you hope that things can be the way you think they should be. If you don't have that, is it really worth it? You can’t force yourself to be happy, with a person that don’t bring you growth. Moreover, sometimes it not the person it you ready to see the world on your own. When we fall in love we want that person to be on this road call life with us. However, sometimes that road is better to cross alone. You're not helping anyone staying with someone, that don't make you happy.

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