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What Happen To Dating: Why Simple Dates Are Earned

This topic is about to get me in some trouble. However, it's time that I bring this topic to light. So, lately I been seeing these pictures float around on social media well mostly Facebook about what make the perfect date. Now, let me be clear you can't really define what make a perfect date. For me the best dates, has always been the unexpected date. Where you both just spending so much time together that you don't realize y'all are on a date. I went on one this weekend, and it was the best date I had in a long time. 

The point is we were enjoying each other company's so much that we just didn’t care how we spent our time together. Now, a few weeks back I made a comment on one of my friend Facebook page. She had just posted a picture on how "simple dates make the best date". Moreover, in this picture it showed a couple eating Chinese Foods and watching Netflix. I made a comment saying this is a 'dream date' for me with the right guy, right after I made that comment I had men from her Facebook page trying to add me and also trying to get in my Dm's as well. All under the guideline that I would be ok with this as the first date.


See, a simple date does make the most amazing dates but men of today seem to forgotten that simple dates are earned. It saddens me how this generation of men refused to take a woman out on a date or even try to plan a date. Always asking women can they "see you or come over”, but doesn't take the proper measurement to see you. It like men don't seem to understand that calling us after 10 p.m. talking about he come over to see me is NOT A DATE! You don't have to spend a load of cash to take a woman out on a nice date. A great date can actually be free, and doesn't cost a dime but your time. Furthermore, you can't think you don't have to show a woman a little bit of chivalry either (if you trying to get your foot in the door you have to show her that you're worth it). Simple dates are when you've been in a relationship for a great amount of time, or you been together for years. You can't expect us to accept on the first date that we’re going to 'burger king' and chilling by the riverside drive and think as women we would be ok with this (but if there are women out there who cool with this then hey more power to you). 

Like I said earlier you can't really define what make a great date. However, fellas at least put in the effort the plan a date. The thing is you can actually get away with taking a woman on a simple date if you take the time to plan it out right. What get you in trouble is when, you don't make the effort to plan anything at all. Putting in effort is what most women want from a man. Show us that you really want to get to know us, and a woman will appreciate you for a long time to come. Now, while men are to blame women are also to blame as well for this topic (now you know I'm a double shooter). You can't post pictures claiming that you want the simple things, and are willing to on a simple date then get mad when he doesn't ball out on you on the first date. If you're dating a guy from your social media page and he doesn't know you outside your social media then what you post is the only way he will really “know” you. Don't lie just to get your foot in the door with the guy and get let down by the guy in the end. If you start off the possible relationship with a lie then, the whole relationship will be nothing but a huge lie. However, women don't be so focus on the price of the date that you don't realize when a good man is right front of you. But what do I know, I'm just hear to drop some knowledge on my journey of self.

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