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Amore Advice: Do Your Spouse Have To Make More Than You

Hey Amorè

So, there this guy I'm dating. We've been seeing each other for 8 months now and he is the perfect man. He’s so caring and he make me feel like a queen. When I'm with him, I feel like I'm walking on air he is everything I prayed for in a man. But it one thing that I have an issue with, and it's the fact he doesn’t make enough money. He not broke but he isn't in a good financial place. The men I date usually make 6 to 7 figures, and whenever I needed help they would take care of it for me. However, this is the first time I been with a man who make less than me. He a really good man but it hard when I want to go somewhere really nice and fancy and all he can afford is IHop or Denny' s. He tells me all the time once his business gets off the ground then he will treat me to everything that I deserve. But I don’t know how much longer I can wait for that. Yes, I know we just met but; I feel like if he doesn’t have it now then he won’t ever have it. I’m aware that this make me sounds like a gold digger, but I deserve the best and I need to be with a man that can give me the best. I want to make this work and I do believe he’s my soulmate. I try to help him get deals, and even try to help him find a good paying job but tell me all the time that he got it “handle”. I want to be with him I do, but I can’t stay with a man who isn’t trying to better himself. What should I do? Do I stay and try to make it work and learn how to accept this or do I walk away... Amore what should I do?

Kimberly K, 25 Austin. TX



What I take from this, it’s time for you to do some deep soul searching. You’re not mature enough for a real relationship if the only thing you can think about is a man pocket. Here you have a good man the man that you so called “prayed for”, and yet you’re looking at his flaws more so than what he can offer you. What women must understand that a perfect man will have flaws. Moreover, he will offer you what you need, and not what you want. A good man will teach you and show you how real love feel. He deserves a woman that will appreciate what he already has to offer. You’re looking for a man to take care of you, and it’s not his job to take care of an able woman. If he’s able to take care of himself without asking you for help then he’s in a good financial place. My advice for you is end the relationship, and work on yourself cause he going to break up with you eventually. The last thing a man need is a woman that doesn’t support him. And while he quiet about how he feels now, one day he will get tired of you trying to change him and he will leave. If he said that he has it handle, then why can't you let him handle it. By offering to help him might make him feel like less of a man, and maybe he just need you to be there more so than to help him right now. Sometimes you have to let a man fall down without helping him get up. Furthermore, for you to look for flaws so early in the relationship shows that you need to mature more. I won’t call you a gold digger cause you’re used to a lifestyle that many men have awarded you with. However, you need to grow up, and learn that you don’t need a man to take care of you. Say what you want but that’s what you’re looking for and until you’ve mature enough to see a good man right in front of you then you need to leave him alone. And go work on you, cause no man is going to take of you.

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