I spend a lot of time on social media: Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat, and there are two hashtags that always catch my attention when I’m online: #goals and #relationshipgoals. These two hashtags are often used to describe how people want someone else’s accomplishments or the life they present online. And one couple picture that always pop up when you hear relationship goals is none other than Jay-z, and Beyoncé. I mean who wouldn’t want a relationship like theirs: two overly successful people who are crazy about each other however, as I always say when a love is too perfect then it hold some flaws. This week, Jay-z release his 13th album “4:44” and he open up about his marriage which caught people well women off guard. As someone once wrote "When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish that person and never forgive them for what they did to you. It’s hard to let go of those feelings. Nonetheless, forgiving someone for cheating on you will actually benefit to the faithful person more so than the cheater. The anger we feel after the act of infidelity is like a poison that lives in us for a lifetime. Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way we can truly move on".
In the title track “4:44” Jay-z basically admitted that he cheated multiple times in their marriage stating that “Beyoncé matured before he did and he was sorry”, which bring up the question how many times can we forgive a man for stepping out in a relationship. In most of my relationships I've been cheated on, and I tried to look past the fact he cheated on me but I knew that it would be impossible for me to forgive him after he broke my trust. Maybe you had a feeling in your heart but just wasn’t so sure about it. Or hell maybe you never even saw it coming. Either way the fact remains that they’ve been unfaithful to you. The one person you trusted with all your heart has betrayed you in a way that is unimaginable. They let you down and embarrassed you in the worst way possible. They hurt you to your core where it will be hard for you to trust another soul in the same light again.
But some women can forgive a man for cheating. Holding on to that pain does nothing but create more anger while you’re trying to move forward. It will eats away at you and whether you realize it or not, it will hold you back in your life because you letting that anger sit in you. Not to mention the fact that we all make poor decisions. I’m not justifying what he did but Beyoncé has choice either hold on to that anger and leave, or let go and fight for her marriage it’s easy to say that we will walk away until it’s time for us to actually walk away. You think about all that time you shared with that person, and what you build with them which make it harder for you to leave. And yes, you can say well he wasn’t thinking about our relationship when he was cheating so, why should I? That a question I can’t answer for you, but this isn’t to minimize the seriousness of being cheated on, but the reality is that we have all done something to hurt someone or done something that may not have been in the best interest of another person. Forgiveness is freedom to the spirit and many people are living in mental shackles wondering why things doesn’t get better in their life after a break-up. When people hold on to negative energy they tend to operate in a negative manner which is why Beyoncé decided to let go of that anger and work on her marriage.
The power is in your hands to forgive and forget. The quicker you do that, the quicker you can move on to a better life with or without that person. We’re not in their marriage all so we can do is make assumptions on what happen like we were there when it occurred. It’s easy to worry about other people personal problems then to mind our own business, and let them figure out what they need to do. The biggest problem with cheating is not necessarily the sexual liaison itself, but rather the betrayal of trust it can cause. You put your all into that person, and the fact that this is your reward afterward feel like an unfair punishment. This is why you can’t idolize another person happiness, you will never know the true story all you will know is bit and pieces that one picture can share. Yes, a picture is worth a thousand words but the words are still untold.
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