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Amore`Advice: Two Women Which Woman Should He Choose?

Hey Amore` 
I been with my girl for 12 years. We been together since Jr. high she was the first woman I ever been with, and I love her more than anything in this world. I know that she’s the woman that I wanted to spend the rest of my life. But I’ve met another woman and I have fallen in love with her as well. We go to different colleges, I beg “Danni” to go to school near me but she chose to listen to her parents and went to a school that’s four states away. We try to see each other once a month, but sometimes it can be up to 4 months before I see her cause of our full-time school schedule. When I met “jess” we started off as friends and when I needed someone to talk to she was there for me when I needed her to most. Then one night came and we kissed and I knew that she what I’ve been missing in my life. I feel like I hit the lottery, when I’m with her I feel like god sent her in my life, he knew that she was meant to be in my life and I’m thankful to have her in my life. Amor` I don’t want to hurt her but I can’t keep this relationship secret anymore. I know I would be taking a risk leaving someone that I been with for 12 years for someone I just met but I know that even if I don’t stay with “jess” I know I can’t be with “Danni” either because “jess” have my heart. So, what should I do help me please!!!!!

Travis J, 26 Boston

It sounds like you’re in a messy situation. In my honest opinion, I feel like you love neither of them but that just me. However, when she chose to go to another college in another state your feelings was hurt so, that where jess comes into play. She came into your life while you’re vulnerable and she played that role as your best friend to her benefit, and in a way, you wanted revenged for your girl choosing her parents side over yours. However, this what happen when people leave high school in relationships they think they’re all in love but when you get out into the real world you finally learning about yourself and your needs. And while Danni fulfilled your needs when you were 14, your needs has change as you gotten older. what used to make you happy no longer put a smile on your face and Danni is one of them. But As the great Wendy Williams once said how you get them is how you lose them. When a woman doesn’t respect the fact that you’re in a relationship then she won’t respect you in the relationship. The heart wants what the heart desire, and if she what you want then go be with her and give this relationship your all. But you must ask yourself if Danni went to the same school as you would you even talk to jess? But right now, you need to let Danni go this isn’t right to her. You’re playing with her heart, and breaking her trust in men. When you kissed jess, you should’ve broke it off then, but chose to act like everything is normal when you knew that you just broke your girl trust. You made it where it will be hard for her to trust another man again, you owe it to her to tell her the truth and you need to be a man and let her go. But how you're not in a rush to break up with her telling me you still love Danni, and really want to be with her. But the choice is in your hands, you need to make a choice now so you and whoever woman you choose can move on with their lives. While I see that you in love with jess you still have feelings for Danni as well and you need to figure out your feelings for her before you move on with jess so she won't get hurt in the end. Cause once you leave Danni you can’t go back and I doubt after you tell her the truth she will take you back. But if jess is the one then Danni won’t even matter in the end. Just make sure that you’re happy.
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