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The Power Of Choices:Why You Should Date Multiple Men

As I gotten older I have always been a one-man woman, I didn’t feel the need to have multiple men around me. However, now that I have gotten older I understand why women openly date around. As much as we want to be loyal to one man, it seems like a man don’t want to be loyal to one woman. We want to give our all to a man however, now you got to date around before you give your all to that special person. I said on here many time before you got to find yourself, before you settle down with a person. The last thing you want to do is end up with a man, that you will never make you happy like you deserve.

Before I found love I used to date around (no I’m not in a relationship right now I’m talking past tenth), I would date 5 men at a time; and didn’t have a care in the world when I was doing so. I was on the hunt for my soulmate, and knew if I wanted to get married before I was 25 I needed to date as many men as possible to meet my husband (still didn’t find him but I was hunting). So, many women date “comfortably” they keep dating men who are safe; and nice but they never date men that really excites their soul. They go out with whoever happens to cross their path and then they don’t look any further afterwards thinking they met their soulmate.

When you develop an abundance mindset, you will see that the men who come into your life are the ones whom you are very attracted to. They are the kind of men that will stimulate your mind, and your soul which you will need as you get older. It’s all about understanding the law of attraction, you attract who you are not what you want. Until you go out and work on your inside, there’re no way you’re going to attract the man that you truly want. If you live in fear and insecurity of finding a good man, then you’re going to meet someone exactly like you. Part of working on your inside is going out, and meeting many different people. Giving different types of men a chance on dates, will help you to define who you really are and what you really want from a partner.

Another reason why so many women shy away from dating multiple men, is because they feel awkward about what to say if one of the men they’re seeing asked them about it. Dating several men at once is not about having to hide things, or being deceitful as long as you’re single you owe no man no explanation of who you’re seeing. As I said, in the beginning, you don’t have to bring up the fact that you’re dating around. All you have to do is show up, be present and try to build a connection with each guy when you’re with them all you owe them is being yourself. If he asked you if you’re dating other men, you must be honest with the guy and tell him that you are remember until you have a title you are to date whoever you want. But you can be kind, and tell him that you’re enjoying the time that you spend with them. As long if you’re dating multiple men you need to be honest every step along the way, and do the right thing like spike lee would say. If you end up liking one of the men more than the others and decide to see that guy exclusively, you may have some awkward moments with the other men, but being honest is always the right thing to do in the end.

As I been on this journey of self, the most important reason to date multiple people, in my opinion, is that it’s the number one best way to really find the man you’re looking for. It’s the best way to avoid settling for someone who might be nice, and fine but not the man for you. Dating is hard, and we all are getting to that age where we’re ready to settle down and have a family but we got learn that we can’t do that with just anyone. It’s important not to underestimate the power of choices get out of your comfort zone, and know that it an amazing relationship is out there waiting for you. But you’re the one who has to go out there and find it. Finding it means meeting, and interacting with many prospective of significant others as possible. Using the power of choice is the key of getting what you really want in your relationship life. But as I always say after an article, what do I know I’m just here to drop some knowledge on my journey of self.

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Gabrielle said…
Awesome blog! I definitely agree that you shouldn't tie yourself down to someone safe or to just one person. I'm turning 25 this year, in a relationship with someone who saw me dating multiple people + proved why I should only date him.

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