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Love Letters From Racine:Unliberated Love

…over my years on this earth, I’ve witnessed love become relegated to an emotion bound by fear. Too many of us desire love while simultaneously finding it difficult to let love be free. We place certain restrictions and regulations on the experience of love, causing it to become tainted and diluted. We feel because we have placed a long leash on love or let it run free within a fenced in area that we are truly appreciating love. The reality to that is we are causing more harm than good. Love is bound-free, not boundless. Therefore, love should be allowed to be. No rules, no requisites. Just love. But through social conditioning and misrepresentations, love has become a caged bird whose song no longer has harmony.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that people no longer love each other. What I am expressing is a simple perspective that love is just not what it is supposed to be. In modern times, love is fleeting and often times empty. It can easily be manipulated and coerced by a simple word from a “guru” or “expert” who ironically tends to be on their second, third, or even fourth time on the love boat. And these gurus plant seeds in people that dictate the love that they should be expressing. Thus, confining love to a concept of the mind that is continually fed by music, media and entertainment. After a while, the imagery and symbolism makes love a strong like with a price tag; where the consumer feels empowered because they can choose to purchase which love they feel they desire…metaphorically, of course.

And when it comes to the consumption of things we are not responsible for producing, we tend to lose the imaginative component of our expressions. It’s no different with love. If we are consuming a concept of love that we did not produce, we are accepting a reality that we have not truly perceived. For example, the idea that “pain is love” tends to keep us in damaging representations of love; from verbal to physical. Yet, somehow, we accept this as a reality and allow its expression to continue. Why is this? Why do we accept a negative connotation to a concept that is supposed to be shaped in positivity? The answers reside in the fact that we have allowed the shackles of pain to bind the power of love. On a grander scale, we have allowed some representation of love to be shackled by some binding force; keeping love from being its freest expression.

Now, this is not definitive law or anything like that. It’s just a simple perspective and observation of the current status of what love has become. When asked why we love something it’s because of “x, y and z; this, that and the third.” It’s rarely because we do, period. I think this is because love no longer has its freedom to be love. It now must be something we can control, dictate and manipulate when it was once something we enjoyed experiencing; enjoying an experience that elevated us to higher levels of existence. An experience that we once had no desire to harness and hold on to, has now become a mood that we are afraid to let go of. But are we afraid because we can’t live without it? Or because of how much we will live with it? Unbind and Liberate our loves to find out…just a thought, you know?

Peace, Love, Knowledge and Freedom.

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