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Leave Temporary Men Alone

As I’m going over all my past mistakes with men, I notice one thing they all had in common is that I wasn’t listening to them. And by listen, I mean I wasn’t paying attention to their words when it came to our relationship. See, men told me they weren’t ready for a relationship but like other women I didn’t listen. Which come to my case about commutation, are men at fault? Or are we expecting too much from men, who are just meant to be temporary in our lives?


As Tyler Perry once said, every person that enter our lives are not meant to be there for a lifetime only for a season. And that why we get our feelings hurt, we trying to make temporary men stay in our life for a lifetime. I been there with you, when you first meet that guy you don’t think that he is temporary. However, just because you don’t see that this guy is temporary doesn’t he don’t know that he is temporary. See, he already set in his mind that their no relationship between you two. So, he will talk that good game but he already know that your days are number with him.




Which leave you to wonder what happen for him to leave, and leave you searching for answers that he going to refused to give you answers to. However, the sad part is that he not at fault you are to blame for not listening to him. When he told you that he wasn’t ready for a relationship, we want to blame the man when a relationship fall apart. But when we’re going to look at ourselves, for the death of a relationship as well. Like I said, growth come when you’re willing to admit to your wrongs as well. Thinking that you were an angel in the relationship, is the reason why you have so many failed relationship in the first place. Furthermore, even if you weren’t in the wrong in the relationship when you look past the warning signs then you just as guilty as the man for reason why the relationship fell apart. There is time when a woman want a relationship, more than she want her self-respect which leave her feeling empty because the only thing she have going for herself is a relationship. A relationship doesn’t feel voids, they just cause you wonder about the “what if”. And if you going to wonder the “what if” then you just need to stay single, that the thing about temporary people they don’t fill voids they just cause them.





That the thing about temporary men, they leave a lifetime effect on our lives. They leave a mark that will make you questions yourself, and every man around you. Everyone wants love, but you need to know when you shouldn't force love. If you want it to be real then let it happen, may take time to happen but take that time to make you a better person. But as I say what do I know I'm just here to drop some knowledge on my journey of self.


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