Hey AmoreXOX I Need Your Help!!!!!!
I have known my best friend for 10 years, and I consider her to be like a sister to me when I needed a friend she has always been there for me. But a few months back she told me about this amazing guy she met, and how she thinks he is the one she been waiting for. I was so excited to meet this new guy until I saw that I hooked up with him three years ago. It didn’t mean anything at the time he wasn’t looking for a relationship however, I was looking for a relationship but I settle on us being sex buddy. He asked me not to say anything because, it was just sex it didn’t mean anything to him. But I did want more, and now seeing him with her all in love hurt me; and plus, since the day I known her I have never lied to her before. But should I tell her that I slept with the new man in her life, and that I still have feelings for him; or should I do what he asked and keep the hook-up between me and him?
M.Jones 29, Denver CO
If you didn’t still have feeling for him then I would have told you to keep your mouth shut, because what the point in telling her about a hook- up that didn’t have no sentimental value behind it. I don’t share everything with my friends, especially if we slept with the same guy If we both know that it just sex then why should we share that we hook up. It not about lying to friends if it was just a one night stand, then what the point of bringing it up? If you didn’t bring it up beforehand, then choose to speak on it now is now is a waste of time (and make you look jealous). However, you're saying that you still have feeling for him which that you two hook up more than you're leading on. And the fact that he asked you to keep it from her, says a whole lot about the man that he is. You must have asked yourself why you still have feeling for this man, if the last time you two slept together was three years ago. Or are you just jealous that she has someone, and you single if that the case then you not a good friend like you claiming that you are. Now even if you choose to tell her now what happen between you two, it’s a possibly that you could lose your friend. And even if you choose not to tell her that you two hook up, the friendship could still end cause of the fact that you have feeling for this man; and being around him is hard for you. Do I think you should tell her the truth? At this point you have to get ready the fallout, because you knew about this for three months; and since you sat on it for so long she will not want to speak to you for a while. And yes, she will choose his side over yours right now she is blinded by love and she can’t see how he isn’t no good for her right now. Furthermore, you must tell her the truth you can no longer keep sitting on this secret if you care about her you will tell her the truth now.
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