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The Power Of Choices:Why You Should Date Multiple Men

As I gotten older I have always been a one-man woman, I didn’t feel the need to have multiple men around me. However, now that I have gotten older I understand why women openly date around. As much as we want to be loyal to one man, it seems like a man don’t want to be loyal to one woman. We want to give our all to a man however, now you got to date around before you give your all to that special person. I said on here many time before you got to find yourself, before you settle down with a person. The last thing you want to do is end up with a man, that you will never make you happy like you deserve.


Before I found love I used to date around (no I’m not in a relationship right now I’m talking past tenth), I would date 5 men at a time; and didn’t have a care in the world when I was doing so. I was on the hunt for my soulmate, and knew if I wanted to get married before I was 25 I needed to date as many men as possible to meet my husband (still didn’t find him but I was hunting). So, man…

Stop Looking For A Good Man

Last night, I ran across this article about how more men no longer believe in committed relationship and marriage. In the article which I will share at the bottom of this story, men felt like “women aren't women anymore”. Which in a way is true however, men are no longer the same either but that another story for another day. Women asked me all the time in my opinion what is a good man, or where have all the good men gone. And that a question within a question, because you have to asked yourself why do you feel like there aren’t any good men anymore; and in your opinion what make a good man. Is a good man hard to find, or are we asking for too much too soon? My quest for a “good man” ended, three years ago because I learned that a good man doesn’t exist it like looking for a perfect man so to speak. If you put it in your mind that there isn’t any good men then you will find nothing but men that doesn’t fit your criteria, while he could fit the bill of what you’re actually looking …

Leave Temporary Men Alone

As I’m going over all my past mistakes with men, I notice one thing they all had in common is that I wasn’t listening to them. And by listen, I mean I wasn’t paying attention to their words when it came to our relationship. See, men told me they weren’t ready for a relationship but like other women I didn’t listen. Which come to my case about commutation, are men at fault? Or are we expecting too much from men, who are just meant to be temporary in our lives?


As Tyler Perry once said, every person that enter our lives are not meant to be there for a lifetime only for a season. And that why we get our feelings hurt, we trying to make temporary men stay in our life for a lifetime. I been there with you, when you first meet that guy you don’t think that he is temporary. However, just because you don’t see that this guy is temporary doesn’t he don’t know that he is temporary. See, he already set in his mind that their no relationship between you two. So, he will talk that good game but he …

Don't Be His Back-Up Plan

It like a perfume that they can smell it a mile away, it took you a long time to get to that place but you finally there. Letting go of someone is hard when you let this person inside of your world, you two shared memories that no one will ever understand. However, you finally at peace on how everything went down; and you finally got yourself back on track to the person you once were before the relationship. Then you get that phone call, this was the call that you’re been waiting on for six months; and now you at a crossroad of what you should do because of the new paths that your life is heading in. And if you should give this relationship, another try after finally learning to live without him.


 A man knows when he has a good woman on his team, but just because he knows doesn’t mean he appreciate the good woman on his team. A man knows when he is going too far in the relationship, he knows when he is playing with fire; and when he should stop. But he will continue until you say that …

Amore Advice: Two Great Men Who Should She Choose?

Dear XOReflections, (yes, I also still go by xoreflections for those who will asked)
It's April and I've been talking to and entered the dating/early relationship stage with this guy... He's ambitious, has 3 babies, but on the road to getting his shit together. He's a few years shy of 30, however, I have strong feelings for him as if we could do this thing forever. Sometimes I worry about his full thought of commitment, because he seems "unavailable" in ways I can't put my finger on yet, but our connection can't be denied, he opens up to me more daily almost, and we are conversing and learning about each other in great strengths...
Now...During Venus Retrograde, a guy that showed small interest with no actions, resurfaced from a year ago. We had the conversation about where we (he) went wrong to avoid it happening again (he'd make plans to see me and NEVER fell through). So, we went on a date...it was great...second date within a few days of the fir…

Love Letters From Racine:Unliberated Love

…over my years on this earth, I’ve witnessed love become relegated to an emotion bound by fear. Too many of us desire love while simultaneously finding it difficult to let love be free. We place certain restrictions and regulations on the experience of love, causing it to become tainted and diluted. We feel because we have placed a long leash on love or let it run free within a fenced in area that we are truly appreciating love. The reality to that is we are causing more harm than good. Love is bound-free, not boundless. Therefore, love should be allowed to be. No rules, no requisites. Just love. But through social conditioning and misrepresentations, love has become a caged bird whose song no longer has harmony.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that people no longer love each other. What I am expressing is a simple perspective that love is just not what it is supposed to be. In modern times, love is fleeting and often times empty. It can easily be manipulated and coerced by a si…

Sunday Tea: My Dream

He crosses my mind every time I close my eyes, I see him all the time in my dreams. I think about that first kiss we shared that left me wanting more, I think about when he touches me; and how he would say my name. We weren’t meant to be but he came in my life, and turned everything upside down. I asked my best friend why do I continue to dream of him, and why I can’t let go. He told me cause I finally met a man that gave me everything, that I been longing for without asking for it. He wasn’t perfect in fact, if you knew his full story you all would look at me crazy like Judaea you know that you deserve better than that. Yes, I do I deserve the world because when I’m in love I offer a man the moon and sun and the earth. But with him in his own way he gave me that the sun, the moon, and the earth. He wipes my tears without me, telling him to wipe them. he took charge without me telling him to lead. He gave me that fulfillment that I was searching high, and low for, he made me feel how…

Lady Of The Month:Poetic Sun

This past Sunday, I attend one of my closet friend poetry play “not your mother diary”, and I will say that this play was one of the best shows I seen in a long time. First off, let me talk about the master mind behind the show Tiarica Randle. Since I met this gifted woman I been to several of her events, and every event is better than the last. She is a young gift who name is growing on the Memphis scene, she also blessed the stage with two unforgettable performances of the night. But let me get back to this show, the whole cast was amazing but my favorite was none other than poetic sun. Since the day, I start blogging I would always hear amazing things about this woman. From her spoken words, to her beauty it’s has always been great things when I hear people speak her name. So, I asked her to be my lady of the month and I’m so happy that she accepted the title. I asked her five questions about love, and what she look for in a guy; and she gave me some amazing answers that I’m so hap…

Amore Advice: Would You Tell Your Best Friend You Slept With Her Current Boyfriend?

Hey AmoreXOX I Need Your Help!!!!!! I have known my best friend for 10 years, and I consider her to be like a sister to me when I needed a friend she has always been there for me. But a few months back she told me about this amazing guy she met, and how she thinks he is the one she been waiting for. I was so excited to meet this new guy until I saw that I hooked up with him three years ago. It didn’t mean anything at the time he wasn’t looking for a relationship however, I was looking for a relationship but I settle on us being sex buddy. He asked me not to say anything because, it was just sex it didn’t mean anything to him. But I did want more, and now seeing him with her all in love hurt me; and plus, since the day I known her I have never lied to her before. But should I tell her that I slept with the new man in her life, and that I still have feelings for him; or should I do what he asked and keep the hook-up between me and him? M.Jones 29, Denver CO


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