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It Only For One Night: How To Have A Successful One Night Stand

Someone asked me do I believe in true love? And I told them of course I do I couldn’t write about love if I didn’t believe in love. But sometimes we have needs, and we want to wait to fulfill those needs but eventually you get tired of waiting. While being celibate has made me a better woman, there are days when I want to throw in the towel and say fuck it (but I know I’m doing this for a purpose that is bigger than me). furthermore, when you’re ready to throw in the towel you don’t want to wait for a relationship to do so. Which is where one night stand come into play I have one, or two one night stand under my belt; and for some reason you feel a sense of power afterwards (depending on the person you lay down with). I get asked all the time “how can you have a successful one night stand”, well I’m about to tell you how but please remember don’t become a custom to having a one night stand. While they are convenient, they can make you question your worth. If you’re not mature enough to handle the outcome of a one night stand, then you shouldn’t do it. But here are 5 tips to having a successful one night stand, remember this is my opinion.




Don’t Fake Your Emotion
I understand when it been awhile since you had sex, you tend to get frustrated. But if you know that you’re not looking a relationship, then don’t lie to that person like you’re looking for a relationship. When you know that just looking for sex lying about your intentions, will make the matters worse for you (trust me nothing good will come from it). And if they’re looking for a relationship then go find a person that want the same as you, trust me there are people out there who want the same as you. All you got to do is be patient, and wait for the magic to happen. And if you know that you want more then sex then you need to be honest as well, don’t lay down with this person thinking that this will change that person mind because it won’t. All you will be left with is another body under your belt, and with a wet ass (if that person knows what they’re doing).



Make It Worth Your While
If you haven’t had sex for a long time, then you need to make sure this night that will go down in the books. That the whole point of having a one night stand, to look back on that night when you lost your voice, or that night when you felt your soul leave your body for a few minutes. Or when they did something, that you never experience sexual before. I remember when this one guy lift me up now you got to understand I’m not a small woman, so when he lifts me up and put me on that table I was literally at a loss for words. And the sex was so amazing to top it off, and that is what a one night stand is supposed to be. One of those night that you can look back on, when you go on your next dry spell. You single so, you are free to do whatever you want (and when you in a relationship you can do this with your spouse as well don't turn into a betty when you get into a relationshp) just make sure you’re safe which bring me to my next tip.






Wrap It Up
One of the reason why I’m celibate now is the fact that I live in a city that where damn near everyone is reckless, and the people doesn’t care where they lay their head as long as they have a place to sleep at night. While having a one night stand can be fun, is also very reckless. For those who doesn’t know what a one night stand, consists of I’m about to break it down for you. A one night stand is when you have sex with a stranger, or a person that you’re 50% cool with; and you share that one night. After this one night you don’t called this person anymore, nor do you try to befriend this person on social media. This one night is the only connection that you two will share, and that why protection on this night is very important. So, make sure you have protection on you we live in a reckless world make sure that you don’t suffer no consequence that you will later regrets.




Don’t send mixed signals
Let be clear of one thing here, you’re not making love you’re fucking. I hate to be so raw, but we all grown here I seen my age group of who read my articles. However, you can’t go into a one night stand thinking that you’re sleeping with the person you love. No, this is a person is here take away all of your pent-up frustration that you been keeping bottle in for so long (they not there to hear about your sad love life). I come to realize the reason why people doesn’t like to have one night stand, because they can’t handle how straight forward it can be. There is no cuddling, none of the treatment that you’re used to getting will not happen this night. If you find a person that into all of that, then maybe but again before you go on a dating app. Or used your social media looking for a person to hook up with make sure of what you want, and what you’re not willing to do.




Plan the Night


If you couldn’t tell by the hints I was giving in this article, then I will point it out for you PLAN YOUR ONE NIGHT STAND! Some will say that it best to let it happen, and that very true. But if you not used to having a one night stand then you need to plan it, especially when it your first one. You going to want it to be with a person that you semi-know, the first place to look for the perfect person for this night is your social media. And you can also download a dating app (that what they used them for anyway). And when you find the right person, you will need to find a place if you want to have this one night if you want it at your place then go for it. However, if you don’t want this person to know where you live then go back to their place; or just go get a room to be on the safe side and get ready for wherever this night will take you.




Sometimes you need a man touch to get you through the night, and their nothing wrong with that. But remember there is a time, and place for when you need a man for just sex. Like I said I done the one night stand before, but I knew I needed more than one night with a man (some men are just made for one night, and not a lifetime). If you are a hopeless romantic then a one night stand isn’t for you, but if you tired of waiting for this dream man to come walking in your life then a one night stand can help. Sometimes we can overthink the motion of love however, that what makes love so amazing as well as sex. Just make sure you don’t fall in love, remember like I said before some men are made just for that one night.

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