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Five Ways Not To Approach A Woman

One of the reason why dating is so hard right now, is the fact that men doesn’t know how to properly approach a woman anymore. There're grown men that still come up to women, like they in high school. But again, we can’t place all the blame on men, we know how they approach us was disrespectful but we keep our mouth closed because he looks good; or because he have money. So, now I’m about to break down the wrong way to approach a woman. Please understand respect is what a woman want, she shouldn’t have to asked for what she deserve. Stop using a woman background, or the way some women carry themselves as the reason why you apporach women the way you do. And women stop letting men disrespect you, a man will treat you how you allow him to treat you.

The Persistent Man
This is the guy you told “no” to several times in the past, you told him your reason why you’re not interested in him (reason being you're in a relationship or he simply not your type). But he keeps trying to holler at you to the point you ready to snap, and even when you do snap on him he still tries to talk to you. Constantly trying to talk to someone who not interested in you make you look crazy, and staying in her “DM” every day and night make you look like a stalker. While it’s women out there who like this kind of attention, a grown woman will find this behavior creepy.

The Arm-Grabber
Till this day, I don't know why men think pulling on a woman arm is a way to approach her. In high school we may have let you get away with it, but even in high school when you grab on a woman arm to hard she would have beaten your ass. It surprised me that we have grown men that still do this, pulling on a woman will get you a quick slap in the face; or get you curse out. No woman well grown woman, want a man pulling on her arms like she is six years old it an instant turn-off.

The Lazy Man
This is the guy that is either across the room, or across the street. Instead of him making an effort to approach you he either holler at you from the area that he is in, or send one of his friends to get your number. If he makes a lack of effort to approach you, then this will tell you the early signs of how he will be in the relationship. While there're some men that can be shy when it time to approach a woman, however a man isn’t that shy especially if he can send his friend over to do his work for him. Furthermore, if he not willing to walk over to talk to you then he won’t be willing to put in the work to be with you.

The Passenger Side Man
This man doesn’t have a car, and might not even have a driver license; and probably live at home with his mother. And possibly have children by multiple women, basically his priorities are too mess up to be worry about a woman (and he will be a pain in the ass in a relationship because he not trying to grow up nor change his ways). But that doesn’t stop him from hollering at you in his friend car anyway, even if he was in his own car this is not a proper way to speak to a woman. No woman expects the approach to be magical however, approaching a woman while in your friend’s car is a turn off period.

The Touchy-Feely Man
This is the guy that approach you the right way came up, and sat down and held a proper conversation with you. Everything is going well however, he won’t stop touching you. When he touches your hand every now, and then that was cool with you. But now it went from touching your hands to touching your thigh, and it’s taking everything in you not to slap him. When a man be touchy feely with you on the first meet, he is basically testing to see how far you will let him go on the first night. And keeping quiet on how that make you feel uncomfortable, is like you’re giving him the green-light for whatever happen next. If you know you’re uncomfortable tell him, and unless a woman tells you it’s ok to touch on her the first time then don’t touch her.

Men say that we asked for so much, when in truth we asked for so little. All a woman asked for respect however, now it seems like we have to beg for it in order to get it. As the old saying goes don’t treat a woman, like you don’t want a man to treat your daughter or mother. Respect is simple giving respect is the hard part, when you approach us all we asked for is a memory that we can look back on; and smile about. And how you made us feel so special that night, and how she knew she met the perfect man. Sometimes we make it hard for you, but all we’re asking for is for you to put in the effort because we’re worth it.

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