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Common Mistakes: Warning Signs He A Loser

As you know while I’m on my journey of self-love I still date, so I met this guy he seems like a cool guy however just after 3 days of long phone conversation he shows his true colors. The reason why I’m writing this story, as warning signs that you’re talking to a loser, or you about to date a loser. When we’re dating, we tend to ignore signs because of the golden signs in our mind that he might be the one. And just because he knows how to make us feel good, don’t mean that he is good for us. What I’m happy about is, that he shows his true colors before we went on an actual date, and I waste my time on a man that looking for a easy woman.

When he came up to me he talked a good game, he said all the right things like he been studying me all night, and he smell good (which was a huge plus for me). He made eye contact with me, and gave good conversation however I knew something about was off about him but I didn’t want to write him off. As I get older, I’m trying to learned to be more open to dating and meeting new people; and seeing what the world have to offer me. I know dating in Memphis is hard, but I believe that if you take the right time to get your mind right; and work on yourself first then it doesn’t matter what state you live in love will come when the time is right. So, I gave him my number, and everything was going well he told me that he had a nine-year-old daughter and he wanted a woman that love children; and he wanted to have more children. But He started bragging about everything that owned, and what he had which was a huge turn-off for me (I can care less about what you owned, and how much you money you got. For me it more about spiritual cause you can have all the gold, and riches in the world but still be poor mentally). It was like he was telling about all his money, and cars to see what kind of reaction I was going to give him basically to see if I was a gold digger. Then he was like if I was his women then I couldn’t work, he wanted me to take care of his daughter which made me feel like he was looking for a baby-sitter (which was red flag number 1 but I kept trying to be nice so I kept quiet which was a big mistake). Yes, even I can mess up at time and be the nice woman as well this is something I'm working on about myself; so in my next relationship I will know better.

The next day, I woke up to a good morning text (which is a woman favorite thing to wake up to other than to waking up itself). He was telling me how beautiful I was, and how he couldn’t wait to see me again like he knew that he messed up the day before. Again, we had another long conversation and as usual he was saying everything that I wanted to hear which is also another turn off for me (lying to me will get you nowhere either way I always found out the truth lying to me, and I can't live off of lies). He told me his zodiac sign (he was a Leo & and I’m a Scorpio I look passed that our signs didn't match because that don't matter to me, just because our zodiac signs don’t match doesn’t mean that we’re not compatible I seen the perfect zodiac signs match couples still break up when you’re dating it your spirit and your intentions that matter the most). I explain to him that I dated a Leo before, and so it wasn’t a problem for me to date another one but he went to say that the last “Leo” was with a defected one and he was an upgrade which was another turn-off for me (don’t tell me you’ll be better SHOW me that you’ll be better). But on the 3rd day, I have already check out of even talking to him. Because of how he was acting, he kept on talking about his money like I needed to give a damn; and this vibe that I had about him that I couldn’t shake anymore. But the final nail in the coffin was when he called me the day before our alleged date, he told me that “I wasn’t acting like a good girlfriend” now need I remind you I only knew this man for only 5 days and after 5 days I was his girlfriend? (and that was strike 3 for me) When I told him that I wasn’t his girlfriend, and I wasn’t interested in talking to him anymore he told me to lose his number; and went on to called me a “big ugly bitch”. Now a part of me wanted to go off, but I look at the situation as a learning experience and what I needed to change the next time I encounter a loser.

When though he was an asshole, I don’t exactly blame him for everything it was my fault as well as his. Number 1: when he starts talking about his money, I should have cut him off then but I stayed knowing he was trying to used his money to sleep with me, Number two: when he told me that he didn’t want me to work (didn’t want me to blog either) I should have told his ass off but I was quiet. And number 3: when he showed me any signs that he was a loser, I should have left period I was wasting my time because for a small second I felt lonely. But you live, and you learned from your mistakes. One wise woman told me, that love will come when the spirit feel like you’re done living your life. Love will hold off until you reach your goals, and dreams or it will come when your spirit feel like you can handle the type of love you need. Honestly, I do feel sorry for the woman that end up with him, but just because he tired to run games on me that doesn’t mean that he will do the same to another woman (but I wouldn’t be surprised that he did this to another woman). But my journey of love, and knowledge of self will continue on. I feel in my heart that this journey is, almost done it just taking it time to complete (in which I'm not rushing it). Because when it does come to a completion, I can tell that it will be beautiful.

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