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The Games Of A Sim: Drake And Jennifer Lopez

At first, I used to want the "nice guy". That guy who called me, and check on me at anytime of the day. That guy who open up his feelings, and what on his mind. That guy who let all the women know on his social media, that I’m the only one he wants to be with. Yes that sounds nice, right? But at 27, I finally realized that I don’t want a “nice guy” as they called themselves. I want an alpha male, I come to learn that not all alpha men are bad men as they're put out to be. They just honest, and they're true to themselves. Which is why women are single today, because we say that we want a man to love us for who we are; but quick to dump a man once he shows a side of himself that we can’t handle. And the bonus is he refused to sell you a fairy-tale love story, we all want a love story but must realize that we can only write our own love story.

Drake is what I called "the king of sims", he the reason why (other than my personal experience) behind my decision to be done with the "nice guys". As you all remember I wrote on here about Drake, and Rihanna off & on relationship. In august 2016, Drake once again declared his love for Rihanna. Just for in October 2016, the couple to break up because of their "busy schedules" (I don’t care how busy you're if you're not willing to make the time to make the relationship work then you have no desire to be in a relationship). I admit after the break-up, Drake did keep a low profile. He wasn’t seen out with another woman, it seems like the breakup was hard on him. Which made us wish that we could meet a man just like Drake (I mean who wouldn't want a man like Drake). Now let fast forward to December 2016, when I first learned of this possible relationship I just knew it was a joke. Until the pictures started coming out, and I still refuse to believe it. But as I come to learn, she is a hopeless romantic just like the rest of us. And just looking for true love.

Jennifer Lopez, as I called "the queen of sims". Jennifer Lopez once said that "she will continue to date, and married until she gets it right" (like that make logical sense). You rarely see her without a man, when you talk about sexy women Jennifer Lopez is usually a man top three (if he born in my age group). However, like I said before beauty is the eye of the beholder. And you got to asked yourself if she so beautiful, as the world claim her to be then why can’t she keep a man? Her track record with relationships, and marriage is one of the most talked about track record known to man. But J.Lo is proof of what happen when a woman doesn’t take a break from relationships, and take a deep look at what she truly needs in a relationship. No matter how much you love to be "in love", or "be with someone". If the same thing keep happening over, and over again it time to take a deep look at yourself. "Sims" is that person, that come in your life that gives you everything you asked for. And it's still not enough for you, nice guys finish last because nice guys sell a dream. They have the same relationship patterns as you, but still can’t stay in a stable relationship just like you. We see him all the time, on Facebook begging for a "real woman". So, you finally decide to give him a chance. Just to find out you one, of many women that fell for his same lies too.

The reason why women don’t go for the "nice guy", is the fact that he just an obituary liar. An alpha male tells you upfront his true intentions, and "sims" sell you a dream then leave after he gets what he wanted. If you look at drake track record, it shows that he had a particular pattern when it comes to the women he picks. Which is why Rihanna, only come around when she needs a quick fix. She knows drake patterns, and that why she doesn’t take a word that he said seriously. Not all "nice guys" selling dreams then breaking your heart. There's are some nice guys out here, looking for everything we desire in a relationship. But get look over when a “sim”, or a "alpha" male walks into the room. The original nice guy is in the back in the corner, looking for a woman who desires for the same thing as him. But that the problem he on the back of the wall waiting, while he missing his soulmate. But don’t think that women can’t be "sims", and alpha either. In fact, they're just as worse as men. Women become "sim", and "alpha" after a man break her heart. She loved that man, and was willing to move mountains for this man. Furthermore, this man was not interested in what she was looking for (he was a trained alpha/sim). So, he broke her heart; and now she is doing the same thing to men as they have done to her. She doesn't see a problem with this, because she not realizing the damage that she causing. Same goes for men, they see nothing wrong in they're doing because it happens to them. However, along the way, they will hurt someone who will tend to do the same thing to another person as that was done to them.

I don’t take this new relationship serious, I feel like I will be writing an “I told you so” story about this relationship real soon. drake is living out his dreams, and all these women are women he had dreams about "dating" before he was famous. And Jennifer Lopez is just bored, I doubt she taking this relationship seriously just looking for a quick fix. Like most of the women that date him are after, they're looking attention or an easy lay (usually both). Everyone thinks that sims, and alpha are two different people but they not. They've the same intentions, but used two different patterns to get what they want. Alpha male/female are not about to lie to you, or sell you a dream of a relationship. They’re not looking for love right now, they looking for a quick fix. And if you stay around while they trying to get their lives together, then maybe it will be a future for you two but right now they’re only looking out for themselves. But it get lonely on the road, of finding their true key to happiness. Sims are the same, way but will lie to you. Playing the role of the good guy/girl selling you that dream of love, and relationship. They just looking for a sex as well, but they’re not willing to wait that long period for sex (alpha are the same but knows different ways how to get in between your legs, and they have other willing partners to go to when you say no). So, sims will play off your emotions make you feel comfortable; and go from there. And they're going to stay around longer, then an alpha will. It's a long journey looking for our life partner to write our love story with, when you want it to be real then it will take longer. Maybe they’re “in love”, or maybe they just having fun, and while we're looking at them we should be worry about our own lives. Time will tell about this pair, but just be careful with the “nice guy”. Good men are out there, but just make sure he is not a sim.

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