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Let It Go: Why Staying Friends With An Ex Hold You Back

Even though I’m on my journey of finding what I need in a relationship, I still go on dates. And I went on a date a few weeks back (in 2016), with this sexy ass teacher. We were having a good time, and everything was going well. Until he asked me a question that, I try to avoid with all the time. Since me, and my ex broke up, we did have a sit down; and talk. And together we found the gray areas, of what went wrong in our relationship. We decided that being together wasn’t meant for us, but we wanted to stay friends. However, if we meet someone then we will, end our friendship. To give that the person we’re dating a fair chance, to get to know us. So, he asked if I still talk to my ex; and I was upfront. He told me that if I didn't cut my ex off then he was going to do it for me, and the crazy part was he didn’t even know my favorite color yet. So, I told him that I had to go to the bathroom but really I left and went home. Cause I knew that, the date was going nowhere. The proble…

Sleeping With An Broken Heart: How Men Handle A Broken Heart

One of my favorite blogger wrote an article about how men really handle break up. Now when I went to a Facebook group to share the article, women felt like the article was one sided; and that women still get the rotten end of a break-up. Which is true we usually do get hit with more bricks then a man, because if we stay upset about the break up too long then we're consider "damage". But one thing I can say about a man is, they do take the proper amount of time to heal from a break-up, compare to women. Now I know I can't speak on all women, but in the study, that was done it was shown that a man take 12 to 16 months to heal from a break-up. Compare to women who consider themselves heal after 6 to 8 months, however I know that it depends on the person on for how long it will take you to get over that person. Especially if they played with your heart, like it was piece of shit.





But the article share the truth about how men really handle their broken heart, but hell I di…

AmoreXOX Advice

As you guys know, I give relationship advice. But I want to be in touch with the real world, this is where “AmoreXOX” come from. AmoreXOX is where the floor is yours, you share your personal relationship problems and questions that you have for me and I will answer them. I want to touch my fans that read my blog, and I want to know more about you guys. So here are two women sharing their relationship problems with me which feel so amazing. Again, if you any relationship questions, or relationship problems you like to share with email me at xoreflections16@gmail.com Remember your identity privacy is kept with me, so asked me away.


Hi AmoreXOX, I been dating this man for 2 months, everything about him is perfect. He has the perfect smile, loves kids, and want to get married in 3 years which is good cuz my last relationship ended because I wanted to get married. He everything I want in a man, but he is Catholic. Growing up I been a Baptist all my life, and my last relationship ended because…

Just Can't Do It: The 6 Deal Breakers In A Relationship

As we know all good men/women will have flaws, but some of them are deal breakers. To be with me I don’t asked for much in a relationship, I just asked to be spoiled with a lot of attention. But as I come to learn, that sometimes space is a good thing (as long it doesn’t lead to a break up then I’m good). however, I was asked what are my deal breakers in relationship? Well my deal breakers are what some would consider non-deal breakers, however if the problems doesn’t get fix even after you talk to him about the problem then the issue won’t ever get fixed. What seem like a small disagreement, will easily grow into a major disagreement when the party have no desire to fixed the problem. now these deal breakers are not one sided, both parties are guilty of these actions. But here are my top 6 deal breakers.



Jealously

It seems like when you meet a man, every woman want to talk to him (or at least that what you telling yourself). It like your man is hot stuff, and every woman want to be wit…

Is It Worth It? Are There Really Benefits With Being A Side Piece?

Growing up I remember hearing that song, you know "he mines you may have him once but I got him all the time". What I couldn't understand, why the woman wanted the man back after he cheated. But now in the time we're living in, women are living those lyrics more than ever these days. I saw another blogger write, “the benefits of being side piece”. I didn't know there was benefits to sleeping with a taken man/woman, but I wonder if the shoe was on the other foot how understanding would a woman be? Since I was a young woman, I told that I was boring. I was also told that, I always played by the book. And if I didn't change up my style, that I was going to end up regretting the “safe” choices that I made in my life. I used to let that shit eat at me cause, I get it life is short we don't know when our last days are on this earth. However, can you sleep at night knowing you broken up a home. Even if the home has problems, it not your place to break it complet…

You Finally Met Him: 6 Signs He Is A Good Man

We've all been hurt before, we've all had someone that let us down in the worse way. Pains can do two things: make you stronger, or break you. When women get hurt we will start to label men as all the “same”, however not all men are the "same". It can be you, making the same mistakes. As I come to learn when men get their heart broken, they’ll take the proper amount of time to heal their heart. And women we take that time as to heal, but we don’t take right amount of time to heal our broken heart. Sometimes we still hold on to the what happen to us in the past for so long, that we don’t see when a good man is standing in front of us. I said this many times on here, a good man will have flaws but will be what you need in a soulmate. Furthermore, what are the signs that you have a good man? Well here are the signs that, you're in the present of a good man. But ladies remember, that in order to find love you’ll have to learn the art of being alone. no one likes to b…

Guy's R Us: The Best 5 Places To Go Meet A Man

Women asked me all the time, "if there are good men out there then why can't I meet one"?. Since I been blogging, I have met many good men. However, the places where I met these men are usually places women refused to go. When you keep going to the same movie theater, or the same restaurant then you will meet the same type of men. And it don't help your case, when you're close minded; and refused to go anywhere new. And tip number two, if you have two; or more of your girlfriends with you then a guy won't approach you. But here are my 5 places where you guaranteed to meet a man.




1. Game Room/Rec Room I’m a nerd, so it's nothing for me to go to a game bar; and have a good time. when I go to a game bar, it surprises me how the place is literally a women ghost town. You will see a small group of women there, but they are usually there with their boyfriend’s (or they're playing the games themselves like me). There nothing like a fine nerdy man, now they wil…

The Ugly Truth About Dating Men With Children: Yandy Simth And Mendeecees Harris

Last night, I watched one of my favorite guilty pleasures “love & hip hop”. As usual, the show was full of fake drama. However, there one storyline that always catches my eye. Mendeecees was sentenced to 8 years in prison for drug trafficking charges in 2015, and while he is serving his sentence he asked his wife Yandy Smith to hold down the household. And keep a close relationship with his children mothers, and to make sure that the children have a close relationship. Well that if you watch the show, then you know that didn’t happen. Their storyline shares the ugly truth about dating men with children, and it also shows how women can be so vindictive when they’re not over their children father.




Mendeecees and yandy have been together, since 2007. Since the beginning of their relationship, it has always been a difficult relationship for the pair (many of yandy smith friend’s felt like she could do better than Mendeecees). However, their love has always been strong for each other, a…