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Break Up To Make Up: Think Twice Before Going Back To An Ex

When a couple break up, there is a reason behind their choice to part ways. But after you spend time apart, in your mind you're not ready to go back to the single life. So you decide, that you want to give that old love another try. For some people time apart can be good for the heart. And can bring a couple who was once lost, close again. But sometimes we let the thought of starting over again, make us feel like there is no one else is out there but your ex. I was in this place once, but you have to understand that if you go back before you find yourself then all you will do is round up hurting yourself, and hating your ex even more. You can’t help who you love, but if you can choose who you go back to. you got make sure that this is what you truly want, because it’s no use going back just to look like the fool twice. So before you go back to your comfort zone, here are five reasons you should think twice.

You have to ask yourself if you want him or if you just want a boyfriend.
You have to think about why this is happening in the first place. You have to questions your motives for the reconciliation. Is it because you want to be with him, or is it because you don't want to be alone?  We have a fear of alone. Because of what everyone else have to say, when it’s come to your heart, the only person you can listen to is you. If you let others affect your life you will round up hurt again. And when you get hurt, there is limit on how long they will listen to you cry about him……again.

You both say you'll change, but only time will tell.
Getting back together will throw you right back into the honeymoon phase. Everything feels so perfect and so different from the last time. You have to be wary, and skeptical. These changes may only be temporary. Because there was a reason why you two parted ways in the first place, you know in your heart he still the same guy that you claimed you want to killed, like he know in his heart you still the same woman that works his nerves to the point of no return. But when you want to start a new relationship you want to go back to what you use to, not realizing that you opening up old pains, and heartaches. And you don't realize that you could be messing with a Pandora box of pain all over again.

 You have to really let go of the past.
You can't just SAY you're finished with the past; you have to really let it go. That time you spent apart is the strangest gray area that a couple can encounter, and those blackened memories of your previous love affair are burned into your memory, and will replay in your mind. If you can't let go, then you have not move on. Forgiveness is a test we work on every day, but we failed that test every day as well. When we choose to forgive someone, we are only forgiving certain parts of their actions. Because there are some situation that is just unforgiveable. When we chose to get back with an ex, we have to let go of everything. Even that time, when your spouse did something that made you question your self-respect as a woman. But if you know that this will be hard for you, then maybe you need to ask yourself why you want to get back with your ex in the first place.

You wonder if you're settling.
You can't help but wonder if this is really the best relationship you could have. Are you back with your ex because you're afraid something better won't come along, or are you getting back together because you made a mistake? No one like to admit to there mistakes. You would let your spouse take the blame, before you admit to being the one who made a mistake. But when you tired of being alone you will choose to settle. As many as 73% percent of people has said that they are simply “making do” in their relationship because their true love got away. And about 17% percent of people has said that they did indeed meet their soul mate… but it was too late, they were already married. But another 46% percent said they’d leave their spouse to be with their soul mate. So if you know in your heart, this is not the person you want to be with, then why are you even there, and most importantly why you putting someone though more pains because you don't want to to be alone.

In the end, you realize you'd rather be with him than face life without him.

75% percent of respondents said that their definition of love changed as they aged. What it all comes down to is the two of you, are very important to each other. You're willing to put up with all of the bullsh*t if it means getting to be together. You'd rather deal with an endless hailstorm of rude remarks from your friends, and memories from the past if it means you don't have to live without him. In the end, only you know if this is relationship worth saving. When it’s come to your heart, it should never matter, what other people has to say. People will have opinion about you until the day you die, so why do they even matters when it comes to your relationship. Your relationship is between you, and your man, and no one else. There just some situation that will only make sense to you, and your spouse. If this is the man you want to be with, then be with him. Fuck everyone, else who think otherwise. But also you got to fight for your relationship, you can’t keep breaking up because of one bad fight. Either you’re riding till the wheels fall off, or just let go so you both can have peace in as you start your new beginning as singles.

Your break up sucked. Sure, your relationship had its problems, but so does everybody’s, right? But hey, can you put all that behind you. Or did you just force yourself to believe that it was all behind you. Like I said before, if this is what you want then you will fight for it, or you let it go the choice will be yours.

That Is All


James Kateron said…
After reading the post I found more information which help me to be more careful of our relation. This is the reality in our life to give importance of our companion. I am very helpful from this post

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