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The aftermath of cheating

One of the hardest situations to come back from in a relationship is cheating, I have been cheated on in all my relationships, and it’s made me questions what I was doing wrong for a man to feel like I wasn’t enough. But once we tried to fix the relationship after the fact I knew that there was nothing he could to for the relationship to go back to what we once had. When someone decide to step out on the relationship, nothing feel the same anymore. Everything that once held the relationship together has shipped, and changed the foundation that was once so strong, and felt unbreakable. There are couples who will tell you that when the partner step out, it’s made the relationship stronger. But then there those couples who put themselves through hell to save what is broken between them. There are many different forms of cheatings, but it’s all lead to the bedroom.

Emotional cheating may include physical intimacy but not necessarily so. Emotional cheating may begin as an innocent friendship. Eventually, an emotional cheater finds himself intimately confiding in the person, sharing thoughts, dreams and an emotional closeness that would normally be reserved for his mate. In some ways, emotional cheating is more crippling to a relationship than physical cheating. With physical cheating, the cheater may still feel emotionally connected to his partner and may only be seeking to fulfill a sexual fantasy. With emotional cheating, however, the cheater's heart may no longer be in the relationship. When you are willing to share your personal feelings with someone that break down the relationship all together, if you can’t share your feelings with your partner but can share them with someone else then it’s time to take a closer look at yourself. Because emotional cheating can lead to sex, because you have a bond together, and as the bond get stronger the sexual intimacy will grow stronger as well. When you love someone it’s hard to share your thoughts with spouse, but if you want it to work then you must try to share your feelings.

Chatting on the Internet with someone of the opposite sex cheating
If you think this is harmless, think again. It may start out that way, but it won’t end that way. Some have engaged in what they considered innocent talk with a former boyfriend or girlfriend from high school or college days, or even a stranger. One thing can lead to another and before you know it, your marriage, or relationship is in jeopardy. When you posting pictures, and sharing your love notes all over Facebook of course everyone want what you have. But it will only end in sorrow and heartbreak for you, and everyone close around you. It’s easy to talk a good game online because you’re online, don’t mean that those people will do the same that your girlfriend, or wife will do. They see this pictures that you’re putting out there as the loving husband or loving boyfriend, not knowing that you going to fuck them, and leave. No pussy, or penis is worth losing your happy home for.

Simply put, physical cheating is the act of being sexually intimate with someone other than your spouse or significant other. It is one of the most common forms of cheating. Although physical cheating is common among men and women, it seems to affect men and women in different ways. Men view physical cheating as emasculating and a form of physical rejection. Women, on the other hand, may be more likely to see beyond the physical indiscretion if they perceive that emotions were not involved. When you are able to share your body with another other than your spouse, no matter how you try to dress it up, or what that person done to push you in to the arms of another you just broke down the entire relationship. I read it all the time how cheating made the relationship stronger, and made the couple want to fight for their soul mate. But there will always be a thought in the back of your mind, will he go back, and do it again. People look at physical cheating as just sleeping with someone when your mate is lacking you sexually, but if you willing to lay down with someone else its more thoughts into laying down.

The "I'll-Show-You" Cheating.
When you’re began realizing the depth of your anger and resentment towards your spouse after years of an unhappy marriage, or relationship. You had long felt unaffirmed, ignored, and disregarded by your spouse. Their adamant refusal to go to couples therapy pushed you into acting upon your anger. I have heard from many couples who told me that a previous therapy had helped them recognize the collusion in becoming so subordinate in their relationship. But they couldn't create a solution, nor figure out how to deal with their desire for revenge. They knew that "getting back" at their spouse wasn't going to produce empowerment or healing, but nevertheless began a disastrous affair. They subsequently discovered that they was only interested in a narcissistic conquest, and after getting that feeling they quickly dumped their spouse. Eventually, they realized that beneath their anger was a desire for a spouse who would recognize their potential, who could "see" them as they see they see themselves, as their spouse never did. But before that awakening occurred, they suffered, and they still had to deal with the reality of there relationship, and how to heal they own trauma.

Cheating is a way to release something that was in you that held in so long, it’s don’t matter if its physical, or emotional when you willing to share a part of yourself with someone else other than the person you so called “in love with” there is something in you that need repair within yourself. When people cheats, its can sometimes have nothing to do with their spouse, it can be something inside of them. Spouses cheat because of the problems in their relationship yes, but it can be because something is missing within themselves, or the passion in the relationship has faded, or sadly because you feeling lonely, and that person who once gave you butterflies no longer give you that feeling. We will find that partner that will treat us better, and appreciates us like we should be appreciated.

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I totally agree, I been cheated on in both my relationships , allthough the first one hurted more cause it was my frirst true love. My second relationship wasnt love it was just a reason for me to run away instead of dealin with the fact that i've lost my first love. If im cheated on again i dont think ill ever get over it , not this time.

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