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Some Doors Are Best Kept Closed: The Truth About Reconciliation Relationships

Letting go of someone that you once loved with all your heart is hard, when you give yourself to another, and they walk away like it's meant nothing to them it's devastating to your spirit, and your heart. But after a while you see the sunshine in your new journey of starting over again as a single woman, and you learn to let go of the past pains that they cause you. Because you realize that it's no used to holding on to someone who can easily let you go like what you have shared meant nothing to them. But as you come to terms with the break up, your ex start coming back around asking for another chance.




An estimated 44% percent of people between the ages of  17 to 24 have reconciled and started over again with an ex, more than half of those were on-and-off again couples who also reported having sex with their ex at least 4 time post-breakup. When you been with someone where you were able to let your guard down with, then it's hard to move on from that person especially when they leave a lasting effect in your life. What made my last situationship hard to get over, was the fact that I felt like I could talk to him about everything, and I was able to share some thoughts that I always learn to keep to myself. But when you jump back into a relationship with someone who have hurts you, and let you down several time, before you took the time to get over that past heartache that mean you opening the door for new problems in your reconcile relationship.





When you break up with a person, it's always a reason behind why they choose to end the relationship. Whether you want to understand the reason, or choose not to understand; there is a good reason behind the ending of every relationship. But people of course, the emotional and practical circumstances surrounding the split affect how post-breakup life is supposed to go. Men are more likely to want to get back together after a break up; while women, particularly who are older and more educated women, are not likely to go back to an ex after a break up. Married couples are more likely to stick together compare to couples who merely live together — the legal exit rules of divorce make splitting a bigger deal. Even before your ex ever brought up ending the relationship, you knew that the relationship was falling apart. But you didn't say anything because you didn't want to look like the bad guy. So he beat you to the punch of ending the relationship, and that leave you to think in your mind that you want to get back together with him when in all you just upset he beat you to the dumping. 






The breakup of a romantic relationship is a serious event, one which typically has a devastating emotional impact on at least one and often both partners. Nevertheless, there are many instances in which couples break up and then renew their relationship with the same partner. Are we masochists of some kind, or do we just prefer the devil we know over the unknown? Reconciliation is more complex than the initiation of a relationship or maintaining it, and the strategies that need to be used are generally not obvious. It seems that positive or neutral means are more successful than negative means for achieving reconciliation. In a study about reconciliation strategies, the most common one was explanation  ("I would mainly tell him how I feel, what I think about him, and why I want to get back together"), setting the scene for reconciliation ("I would call him on the phone and say that I need to see him in person"), an appeal to the nature of the relationship ("I would remind him of all the good times we've had together"), and filler statements ("I don't even think you know what you want.") Attempts at reconciliation typically occur as a result primarily of lingering loving feelings; other relevant features are uncertainty about what the preceding breakup indicated, not having dated others after the breakup, and feeling that the break could improve the relationship. Reconciliation attempts are more likely when the dissolution has been unilateral. In such circumstances, the presence of profound love on one end encourages a further attempt at reconciliation, On-off relationships are certainly not an ongoing party.





Basically you hoping for something that just not meant to be, yes it’s hard to let go, foremost in your mind letting go would be the biggest mistake you ever will make. But how long will you hope that the situation will change, how long you will hope that the love you once had for that person come back, and how long you will stay in an unhappy relationship just to say that you’re in a relationship. I said this many times before, people stay in unhealthy relationships just to say they have someone in their life. Just because he all of sudden shows you renewed devotion toward you, and realizes what he did wrong and is sincerely apologetic, expresses his appreciation for you and all you bring to his life, and he even proposes marriage to you don’t mean the relationship is not unhealthy. the change of character and new found devotion won’t change what happen between you two, that doubt will always stay there no matter how much that person quote unquote have change.




Love can only be real when you with the right person, sometimes we paint in our mind when a person comes in, and show us something new that it’s meant to be. But nothing won’t change until you learn to let go of the situation all together. Starting back single will open new doors to self-love that you didn’t know exists in you. Sometimes a person comes in our lives to awaken something that was missing in us, people are meant for a season not a lifetime no matter how much we love that person. We can only awaken that love when it’s with the right person, and its won’t be force, or fake, and no matter how much a person tried to break its won’t be broken by no one, and no spirits.


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Comments

Wow , love it. This is so true I swear most of the stuff you wrote I been saying or telling people in my every day life . My 3 years beimg single was a choice to renew myself, to take time out for me.

I honestly enjoyed this. 😉😉
Wow , love it. This is so true I swear most of the stuff you wrote I been saying or telling people in my every day life . My 3 years beimg single was a choice to renew myself, to take time out for me.

I honestly enjoyed this. 😉😉

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