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Is It A Such Thing As An Emotionally Easy Woman?

Lately I had men that I dated in the past have out of the blue just been inboxing me on social media, and apologizing for how they treated me, and saying that they wish they gave me a real chance. while one or two guys I believe, but the other three I just didn’t believe I felt like they just wanted to hook up, and right now I’m not looking to sleep with anyone who can’t add, or bring mentally, and spiritually value to my life. But one guy particularly apology stood out to me, he said I was too easy, and felt like I didn’t care about him he wanted a woman to show emotions, and give him a challenge, and I didn’t show enough emotions, and he felt like I didn’t care about him. But he also said that now that is he older he wants a woman like me, an easy woman. That was the first time I ever heard any man say that to me. But it’s left me thinking, and wanting answers because when I date I make it my mission not to make the man I’m dating life a living hell. I believe in being a man peace not the woman who raise hell about any, and everything. But more, and more I see it all the time when men say that they want a “good woman” but they date the exact opposite of they claim to want, and then quick to say that “all women are crazy” because of the bad decision he made.

You’re young and beautiful, but men won’t like you if you’re nice to them”, I heard this many times before from older women who said that men are not into an “emotional easy woman”. When you hear something like this you don’t know how to take it, or what to say back it’s just stay in your brain until you wrap your mind around it, and make you asked yourself how you were emotional easy. When you asked men how is a woman emotional easy he will say that if she too open then she is broken from all of her past relationships, and she won’t put up a fight for her man, and the relationship all together. As depressing as it were to hear it, from in my experience, it was true. The phenomenon is not unusual: the very moment I become interested in men and show a certain level of kindness and warmth, a natural way of expressing affection, they tend to withdraw or become distant. Conversely, when I decide that I am no longer interested in certain men — or that I was never really interested at all — I am transformed into an irresistible, unattainable goddess in their eyes. Sounds crazy but it’s like if you’re not a bitch then a man don’t want to date you, thoughts about this notion of being mean to men as a strategy. sounds absurd to me, “Men who don’t have self-respect for themselves might gravitate towards women who are mean to them. But whole, grounded men don’t like bitches, but I suppose it depends on how you define the term bitch.”

A woman shouldn't say, 'You don't call me enough,' or, 'You never tell me you love me.' As a woman, your best asset is to be unpredictable. He should never be able to figure you out. When he can always predict what you are going to do next, you've lost him as a long-term partner. He'll look for someone else whom he can't understand or control. Men are competitive. When he buys a car that is a limited-edition model, he feels like he has something special. Guys in the street who race cars usually race for pink slips, because they want to win, conquer and take the other vehicle. That carries over to women. A woman who is easy won't scratch his competitive itch. When she stops expressing her opinion and starts agreeing with everything he says, that's usually when a man starts to feel bored. But it wasn’t that I agree with everything my man said or did, I just felt like somethings wasn’t worth putting up a fight. Let be real here no matter many times we can tell a man what to do, or how we feel a man going to do what he wants to do, me being a bitch or rude won’t stop a man from being a man. I realize that the reason that my ex felt like I didn’t show any emotions unless we were having sex, because I will check emotionally before I check out altogether.

But in truth you can be everything that a man asked for, but if he don’t want to be with you then he will not be with you. Men will swear that they don’t want to date a woman with a fuck up attitude, but yet married her or even make her his baby mother, and then want an emotionally easy woman to deal with all the problems that he cause by wanting a woman that will make him “work” for it. Yes, men like to have someone that is interesting, someone that won't give away all of their secrets on the first date. You want to leave some mystery there and make sure that you are keeping the relationship interesting and fresh. But sometimes it’s not about being emotionally easy, or even being a bitch if she has a brick wall up between you and her then chances are it is because she has been hurt by other men in the past. I say men because most women’s hearts do not automatically become cold after one incident with a bad boyfriend. It usually takes more than one negative experience before she hardens. 

And now I’m finally at a place where a man will have to work for my heart, and soul. I don’t usually have a wall up, but now I have one up, and I see everything so much clearly now until I’m ready to let my wall down. You will always have to kiss some assholes before you meet that one person that will change your life, life and love is a lesson that you will never get enough education from. There always be a new lesson in life, and love.
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