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You finally got a good man enjoy him.

When you been in so many bad relationships you don't realize when you finally have a good man sometimes we can get what we pray for but don't realize it until it's too late but how do we know? And how can we show a man that we appreciate him? Well here 5 best tips I can give you.

1.have his back
All a man ever really want from a woman is for her to have his back. He wants a woman to there when he at his lowest, and to be a phone call away. sometimes we want a man to be there for us, and he do that when he can, but we forget to be there for him when needs us the most. I know that you done this before, and it back fire. But when it's with a real good man that comes in your life, you should have his back period.

2. Be there
Sometimes just being there when he at his lowest make a man feel damn good. To know when he at war he got someone who willing to fight with him, when he feels like the world is against him to know someone is there for him mean more to him then you ever know.

3. His space
Giving a man space don't mean he wants to be single or he don't want to be with you it's just means that he wants a few hours to himself after work. You don't have to be under your man every day, and every hour to show your love. Sometimes space can help the relationship between you two and make its stronger but if it every day then yes talk to him about it but every once in a while, shouldn't be a problem.

4. His wall
Sometimes we can let the fear of being let down, and being hurt again keep us from letting someone in. And no one do that more than men, once we see that his wall is up we put our wall up as well, building problems in the relationship, and trust issues because of a wall that shouldn't be there in the first place. If you see yourself with this man then talk to him, tell him how you feel, and let him know how him having his wall up is a problem, and hurting you. Tell him the truth, and if he loves you then maybe he will let his wall down, or work on letting his wall down for you. And if he willing to try, then give him times to learn how break it down. Its going to take time. BUT IF AND ONLY IF he really trying to trust you and break down his wall for you.

5. His peace
When we are mad we sometimes do, and say shit we don't mean. And when we are mad we choose the wrong time to go off especially when it comes to our men, when we are mad at him we choose to stay mad at him instead of finding peace to fix it. We are supposed to be man peace, and supposed to hold him down. We are his happiness when he can't seem to find it on his own. Yes only the ones who truly loves him knows how to, and when to test his anger, but sometimes we should know when to put that on hold. And yes no one knows how to push a black woman button like a black man, but again sometimes we need to know how, and when to shut that shit down. There is time to get your point across but when it time for peace shut that shit down and be his peace.

Why is it so hard to believe that their are good men in the world? And why when we finally get what we been praying for we are willing to lose it all over one mistake or fear he will hurt us? I know that feeling I live with that feeling everyday. But if you met him and already with then be there for him, be what he need when their are a black cloud over his head. He out there he waiting for you like you are waiting for him, but when you meet him be his peace and his blessings.

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