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Social Media And Your Relationship

In a study done to see how many times people used their phone in a day, it was shown that the heaviest smartphone user used their phone 5,427 times a day. The lightest users used their phone 2,617 times a day, and they will also touched their phone on an average of 85 times a day to see if someone calls or text them, in doing those times an average person used their phone for 145 to 225 minute a day, and the times that the heaviest usage occur between the hours of midnight, and 5 a.m. And they also said that the reason why were because people are mostly likely to be checking their spouse social media accounts.

Social media play a significant role in people relationships, also in the study one in seven couples said that social media cause jealousy, infidelity, and breaks up in their relationships. Some said they even consider divorce because of social media, yes more 60% percent of couples were willing to end their marriage because of social media. As we comes to learn, people gives social media huge power play in most people relationships. Most couples gives social media that power because of the attention they get from sharing their relationship online every other day. On average a couple will share more than 384 pictures of them together in their entire relationship, they will also post more than 147 pictures of their significant other alone just to show them off in their entire relationship. We see it every day, women on Facebook posting how they are tired of being single, asking why can't they meet a nice man who will love her for her, and who be loyal to her and only her. Sharing how she is tired of being single, and men do it as well but not as the level as women do it. When some men share they are ready for a relationship he basically trying to see who will fall for the bait so they can get laid (which sadly a lot of women will fall for that bullshit I fell for that bullshit once and was a waste of time).

But after a while of being single, and looking for a good man you actually meet a good man, or he came off as a good guy. And we all know what happen when a woman finally meet a good guy, she instantly go to the "about" part of her Facebook page and change that relationship status from "single" to "in a relationship". Nothing give some women a sense of confidence when she share on ALL of her social media accounts that she in a relationship after being single for a great amount of time, so like any women, she make little statuses about her being in a relationship; you know that damn book status on how she feel blessed to find a "real man" (as if she wasn’t already blessed before she met him) just pouring her heart and soul all over that status. And then she makes the mistake that most women think that isn’t a mistake, she change her profile picture and put her, and her new guy as the main profile picture. Now most women don’t see this as a problem because that her man, why should see hide her man? Now I do agree, but the problem is; how long where you two together before you start sharing pictures of him? What do you really know about him? And most importantly are you sure that he feel the same as you feel about him? And is he ok with you displaying their relationship all over social media?

Ten of ten you didn't asked nor consider any of this, simply because you were excited to finally be in a relationship you didn’t take the time to see if he felt the same way as you. Just like you, there are many women who are still very single, by sharing your relationship before building a foundation will cause problems in that relationship. You see it all the times on their Facebook,twitter,snapchat and Instagram "I'm not sharing my man, because you hoes are thirsty", or "my relationship is my business", or something in that likeness. And in a way they are right. Do I believe in hiding my relationship? No I don’t, because if we are together then what are hiding from. If a woman lack respect for the relationship then, she will always try to break that relationship up because of jealousy, and lack of respect for herself. But I do believe in keeping a relationship from the public sector until we are in a mature state in our relationship to share our relationship. Most couple don't consider this before they put their business out there.

You sharing your relationship with everyone before the relationship is in a stable place. Your relationship is now a TV show for the whole world to see, and those same women who were so excited for you and your new relationship are now in your ex boyfriend "DM" trying to talk to him, and talking about how you wasn't the right woman for him in the first place. When you don't build a strong foundation, nor build a strong communication between each other, and build a trust in your relationship before you put your relationship all over social media then you opening the door for problems in the relationship. And now you breaking up, and making up all over your Facebook, and snapchat looking like a damn fool (And trust me, you looking like a damn fool and those subliminal statuses about how women be in a relationship one day then single the next is really about you because they tired of watching the same show and problems between you two).

Now we all makes these mistakes once, or twice. But if you don't learn from the past relationships mistakes from sharing your relationship on social media, then you won't ever learn. It's nothing wrong with sharing your relationship on social media, but make sure that this relationship is worth sharing before you share it. Because no woman wants to be up at 4 a.m. trying to break in her boyfriend phone. But in the end we forget to see how social media is an addiction, and has become a major problems in the role of insecure women, and men. Some will say they were insecure before they got in that relationship, true can’t disagree, But when you add social media in the mix its turned them into stalkers, addictive to checking on their spouse every hour on the hour, more self-absorbing into their relationship, and sadly not only harmful to their relationship, but harmful to themselves. Self-love is important before you get into any relationship but most don’t think of themselves before they rush into a relationship, they think about everything but themselves while in a relationship. Which only make their insecurities even worse, we can have this discussion for days and years to come. But enjoy your relationship, live in the moments of your new relationship before you share it with your social media "family"

                                                       That Is All


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