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The First Date

The first date is very important. The first date is that special moment when you see if you met your soulmate or just getting a free meal. While the first date can be nerve-wracking, there still common sense mistakes that shouldn't be made and I'm about to break down the top 5.

1. Friends
"My best friends are very protected of me". Words no man want to hear on the first date. A first date supposed to be fun you talking about how your friends will fight for you, and are an important part of your life. Yes, it's nothing wrong with telling that but wait until the third date before you drop the friends bomb.

2. Cell phone
I can make this one short. Stay the hell off your phone during a date. Nothing is that important where you have to be on it the whole time on the date. Get to know each other your friends don't need to know how the date is going they can wait until you get home.

3. Be on time
If you get asked out four days prior to the official date. You have more than enough time to pick an outfit, the hairstyle you want, and what shoes you want to wear. Don't wait until the date to get and spend an hour over getting ready. That not fair to your date. If you going to be late you might as well just cancel.
4. Your Ex
Nothing killed a date faster than bringing up your ex. Yes, dating after a long relationship is weird. But no used in bringing them in your new possible relationship. And nothing makes you look hella bitter then talking about how your ex hurts you on your first date. So leave them at home and bring them up when the time is right.

5. Open Minded
This is the first date. So trying something new on the first date is the best way to learn more about the person you dating. Why go on the same boring date "dinner and a movie". Be open minded and give this a fair try. How can you talk when you have a mouth full of food and you can't talk as the movie playing? So on a scavenger hunt, or an open mic night just whatever you do make it a night to remember.

Dating is fun, and can help you meet your soul mate, or make a new friend. Life wait for no one. And waiting for an ex to realize you good enough, or for the perfect "mate" to fall in your lap will not happen. Life isn’t no movie, and sometimes worrying about love can hold you back from enjoying what you have now so go out, meet new people, enjoy life, and date and have fun.
That Is All 💋💋💋


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