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Red Light

One of the true relationship advice I will always believe in is "when a guy into you he will show you". And that is the real, sometimes we can like a man so much that we missed the signs that he just not into us. But what are the signs? Now all signs are different but when, but here are the top 5 signs small signals that shows he just not into you.

1. You call and text first
Now sometimes this isn't a problem we should be able to send a quick text to let him know that he is on your mind. But if you first to text "good morning" and first to text "good night" then that a problem. He should show you that he interests in you, he went through all that trouble to get your number just not to text nor call you. If a guy into you he will make time to call you and text you, if he not willing to something as simple text you "good morning" or just text to say hey then he not into you.

2. His social media
Following a guy you like on his social media account is the best way to find out more about him and what his interests but it's a quick way to end a relationship as well. A man social media is basically his cell phone he doesn’t want you in his phone and he damn sure don't want you on his Facebook either. Yea there are a few men who don't care about their woman he into following him on his social media accounts, but remember the keyword "FEW" but the rest have a huge issue reason being his fan club (other women he wants to sleep with, and or already have slept with). His fan club was there first well before you so you not allowed to comment on none of his pictures nor can you say that you guys are together. So basically you his lil secret if you can't even get a status on his Facebook then he not into you.

3. Too busy
This is going to be simple as I can get with this. If a man into you he going to make time for you no matter the time of day or night. He going to make time because it's something about you he can't live without, he sees something in you that he wants to around. So if he not willing to spend one hour with you then he just not into you PERIOD.

4. His lil secret
Now when dating I'm not the one to rush to meet family and friends and nor am I to rush a man to meet mine. You got to be hella special to meet my family and friends at the beginning of dating. But if you guys been together for a while and you still haven’t met not one cousin then something is up. If he likes you, then you meeting a friend or relative or someone who is important in his life. If you can't meet the family and friends and or he got a reason why you can't meet them then you’re a lil secret or he just not into you or both.

5. Late hours visit
This tell you exactly how he feels about you. If his free time is only between the hours of 9pm to 3am then he into you, into you enough to fuck you. When a man respects you he wouldn't come between those times to see you. He be planning a way to show you his affection, and get to know your mind before he knows your body. If he not willing to spend time with you and get to know the real you and not what in between your legs, then he just after one thing and not really into you.

As we get older dating is like a long ass game of chess, we waiting for someone to say “king me”. When you ready for it to become easy it’s never does, you want to what you doing wrong and you ready for a relationship. But it’s always seem like we catch a guy with his red light on. Maybe one day it’s will be easy and we meet a guy with his green light on. But until then we got to wait our turn on this chess game of dating.

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