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I Need A Sex Break

After many failed attempts of love you start to wonder what is the problem. Why can't you seem to get it right, and why it's seem like you meeting the kind of same men. As you evaluate the mistakes you made as well as his, you noticed some same pattern on your part is being made, and you realize that it's time for a life changes, and one of the life style changes you make is you cut out sex. Becoming celibate is hard, and it's takes a real person to realize that sex can be a problem. So if you making a lifestyle change sexually here are my 5 best tips from my experience of celibacy.

1. The list
When first going celibate it's best to make a list of all the people you slept with. The actual number list not the one you lie about to make yourself feel good. And yes add the people you just gave oral sex too, they count as well. Some will be proud of their number, while some will be ashamed of their number. But the list is important for two reasons: 1. To see if there a pattern sexually that you need to fix to see why they want you sexually but not in a relationship. And 2. So you will know your number when you go get tested.

2. Get tested
Well for one even if you not celibate you should still get tested. But going in celibacy it's very important to go get tested, therefore when you jump into a new relationship, and you do decide you want to have sex, you will already know your status. It's something that will help you sleep better at night, and it's can make you feel better about the number of people you slept with. Knowing that test came back clean, and negative I know it's did for me.

3. Cut Off
Being celibate is hard enough. So having your sexual past floating around, as you try to withhold from sex won't help the situation. So it's time to cut them off, and I mean all of them even the person who gave you 6 orgasms back to back, it's defeat the purpose of being celibate they don't want a relationship with you. Ok that fine, you have accepted that. But if they can't date you. Then they shouldn't be no longer allows to sleep with you nor makes sexual passes at you either. So cut them off tell them goodbye, and don't look back. Especially if your past is a problem for you. Just cut the loss, and move on. Sometimes great sex is easy to get, but a great relationship is hard to find.

4. None supporters
None supporters are just the sexual partners you had to cut off, but instead they are your family and friends. Now of course your real close family like your parents, and brothers and sisters are gonna be happy with your decision to stop having sex. But not everyone will not be happy with the decision. Simply because going celibate isn't  just cutting off sex, it's mean you making a real true lifestyle change that need to be made. And you making growth, you see its time to make better choices in your life, and if your friends are happy being in the place they are in right now, then they won't like your new life change at all. And if they can't get with it time to go. No one should stop your growth, not even your friends. So they don't like it, then they can kick rocks, and you should cut them off.

5. The Promise
When you first start celibacy, you gonna make God and yourself a promise on how long you're gonna go without sex. Some of you gonna say " I'm not gonna have sex again until I'm married". Yea see the big problem, for starters don't include God in this decision to forego having sex. Asked God to help you stay strong, and stay away from temptation. But don't make a promise to god you know you can't keep. And why you want to you marry to have sex again? That a huge mistake reason why? Your partner could very well be shitty in bed, and if you plan on getting married once then the last thing you want to do is be stuck in a marriage to someone who is horrible with foreplay, and horrible in bed. You can train your partner. But after being celibate for a long time, the last thing you want to have to do is train your partner to perform in bed like you want them to do.

6. You're not going celibate, you making a lifestyle change
I said this a lot in this post. And it's like what I said, you're making a lifestyle change. When I first went celibate, I thought I was just cutting off sex so I could find my soul mate.  But then I realized that I stopped because I was finding myself, and the woman I know I need to be for me and my family. And that is what you're doing as well, sometimes we can be so wrapped up in pleasing everyone else that we tend to forget ourselves. Yes having someone in your life is amazing, but how can you truly love anyone else if you can't love yourself, and you don't know yourself?. Getting your hair and makeup done, and your nails done is not knowing yourself either.
You got to look deep within yourself to truly love yourself and know yourself. And you think cutting out sex will help, then do it. No one should ever stop your growth and development as a person, no one truly knows your truth but God and you. So if this is how you want to do kick off your lifestyle change then do it remember no can stop your story but you.

Sometimes love can be the motivation for a lifestyle change. Whether it's love for yourself, or love of your family or even love from a child. Making a lifestyle change mean you ready for a deeper understanding and love you know you deserve. Sometimes that road can be lonely, and that why you had sex with most of those people because you were tired of being alone. But wanting more mean stopping giving your soul to people who simply don't deserve it. When opening your body you are opening your soul, and heart and spirit. And just giving that away so lightly can easily hurts you then help you so if you know it's time to grow then do it remember no can stop your story but you.
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