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A Package Deal

As we continue our quest for love we know there are some rules we made we can now break. One of the biggest rules we tend to make and break is dating a man with children. At 21 you couldn't pay me to take a man with a child, but now at 26 I look at a man with a child as a package deal and as long as the child is under 2 then I can date him because the child at that age where they will forget about you if the relationship doesn’t work out and it’s at a fair age where the child is willing to give you a chance. but there are five rules that come in play when dating a man with a child.




1.Your Place

When dating a man with a child or children, you got to know your place. Because one that is not your child so going off on that child and putting your hand on that child is a huge hell no. I'm not saying to let the child disrespect you but if the child is under 3 or 4 what do that child really knows about respect? that should be left up to the parents not you, so keep your hands and some of your evil thoughts to yourself. (side note if you know you don't like kids then don't date a man who got a kid or kids just wait until you meet someone who don't have kids might be awhile but better to wait).





2.The Relationship

The relationship between the parents will tell you so much about the person you are fallen in love with. Because you have to understand they were in love once, DO NOT BELIEVE THAT BULLSHIT WHEN HE SAY THAT HE DIDN'T LOVE HER THAT IS COMPLETE BULLSHIT! they made a child together so there was love involved, when you sleep with someone with no protection that a huge level of trust involved as well. And some love as well, even if there was more lust then love and trust they felt something there for them to make that child even if they didn't know it. So before getting serious have a conversation about their relationship and have a one on one with him.



3.A Bond

Listen when dating someone with a child we tend to forget about the child and just continue to date the parent as if the child doesn’t exist. That child is not going nowhere so to think you can continue a relationship with that person and not build some kind of relationship with that child is stupid. get to know the child make an effort to build a bond no its don't got to be close bond but it’s got to a bond where that child knows about you and respect you.


4. Respect Her

look she was here before you and will be there after you, so to think you can disrespect the mother and have little  respect for the child is complete bullshit. I don't understand how women can sit there and disrespect the child mother like that won’t be them if they don't pay attention to the signs. If he made her a baby mama then trust me he won’t have no problems making you one either. And for you to let him disrespect her said a hell of a lot about you, he is wrong to be talking down about her no matter how petty she could be or can be that his child mother he knew she was a bitch when he fuck her raw and remember if he talking about her then he will be talking about you.


5. the possibly


Like I said in two, have a conversation about the relationship between them and listen to everything he said about her because like I said she will be there while you are around and after you leave. You won’t get rid of her no matter how many times you talk shit about her or how many times he talks shit about her she is there until someone is 6 feet under. you got to understand that she made his image she gave him a gift, a gift that is so important to him so there is love there, he can say he hate her but he loves her for giving him that gift so if you can’t deal with on your head while you with him then its best to end the relationship now you can have inner peace and free of unneeded drama.

Our quest for love is a hard one no matter how we pray for it to be easy it's never easy. So like I said before, make sure you can date a man with a child make sure that this is what you want, and need in your life. Yes dating someone with a cihld is fun but if you don't have a child then you are a outcast from the situation because as that saying goes "until you have a child, you will never understnad where a parent is coming from' so that being said make sure you are ready for that parkage deal.


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