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Why It's Not An Woman Job To Heal A Broken Man

Lately, I’ve been feeling raw and I feel like it something I need to get off my chest. When it come to my writing, I’ve been censored. Worrying about who I will hurt with my words. Because if you know me, then you know when I have something to say then I will say it. Even if it mean I will leave blood on the floor. However, as KRS ONE once said, “the measure of ignorance comes when you take something simple and make it too complicated.” This morning, I finally sat down and watched the notorious interview with Pastor John Gray giving his perspective on his marriage and more specifically his "thoughts" his beloved wife, whom he recognized as a pillar in his journey helping him become the man that he is today. I have nothing but respect for him, at least he spoke his truth instead of lying about the challenges being a man today. However, many of the problematic statements he made left me speechless. Before I go deep in my point let me be clear for about one thing. While a black…
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Five Question Not to Ask Single People This Holiday Season..

Getting older is not easy. While you have those who celebrate getting older, you have those few who aren’t ready to face the fact of life. However, getting older for women is much harder than men. We  have to deal with audience of curious eyes watching our every move, as we get older. No matter what we accomplish, it always the little things that everyone seem to notice other to than our current success. I was blessed with parents that loved me no matter what, whether I was married with kids; or single and happy. Either way they love me, nonetheless everyone aren’t so lucky. Well, since the holiday season are coming upon us, it not an easy time to be single. We get it you guys had high hope for us, but just because it going a little slower than we expected doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Some don't mind the usual line of questioning. However, you will have those few who wish you would leave them the fuck alone. So, here are the five questions not to ask singles people during the hol…

What to Do When A Person Ghost You

We all knew this day was coming and now it time I write about it. This Sunday night, was the season finale of “insecure." Now, before I get to the point of the story I must share my thoughts of this whole season. I was looking for that spark this season like season one, and two, but I didn’t receive one until the end. Even the whole Daniel and Issa storyline that was a letdown. When I saw she brought back Lawrence I was hoping that finally they would work it out, but again Lawrence on that bitch ass shit. However, the relationship between Nathan and Issa was the talk on black twitter. While Issa thoughts she finally met a good guy who challenge her, Nathan proved that “the lighter the eyes, the bigger the lies.” While we have to wait until Next Year to see exactly where this relationship will go, Nathan pulled a move that was close to home for many people. It hurt like hell when a person leave you without any warning or reasons. It leave you asking yourself, “What did you do?” We…

When Hurt People Hurt: Nas and Kelis

You can’t fix what you didn’t break. Sometimes the demons we face, are not the person we’ve dated fault. We’ll never know the demons anyone truly face, until they decide if they want to take it out on us. We try to be there and show them something different but soon realize their demons are slowly killing us. As I come to learn a man is his mother image. A man is what his mother make him to be, he may carry out some of his father actions; but his character come from his mother. Like a woman is what her father tell her to be. Whether he speak it with his words or speak it with his actions (by not being in her life), a woman carry her father words with her everywhere she goes and in all of her relationships. That why sometimes when a man is reckless, if his mother understand his actions then no one else opinion of him even matter. Vice versa with a woman. We chose to play doctor but doesn’t stay around to fully cure that person injuries. We just add more cuts, to an already wounded soul…

My Thoughts on Love Is...

As I always say, when the love is real it not meant for anyone on the outside to understand. I always ask women “what would they do for love?” Some women answer, while some just look at me like I’m crazy. Everyone loves to claim they have a limitation on love. However, as one told me you only have limitation when you haven’t met your match. Now, before I could write this story I had to re-watch this series twice just to make sure I was understanding what I was watching. Therefore, after watching this show I got something to say and it won’t be pretty. My new addiction celebrating black love is Love Is”, which tells the origin story of a modern-day love, before social media came and destroyed well trying to destroy love for everyone. This show has become the topic of discussion more than this season of “Insecure” (I’m still waiting for that wow moment of this season). Love Is_ is set in '90s. And tells the story of two Black creatives who fall for each other quickly. Nuri works as…

The Top Five Worst Women To Be In A Relationship With

Well, I was asked, and I deliver so to speak. Even though I don’t post the letters of questions I receive from women, I still answer back. And I read these letters seeing how women answer their own questions, to why they have relationship problems. I knew if I wrote this article that I would be label as a “pick me” and that not even the case. I’m far from a “pick me” but I have observed certain behavior where I knew why these women were still single. This list is not only for my readers, writing this made me look at some of my actions as well in what areas I need to work on as I continue to grow as a woman. Before I wrote this, I had to ask 5 men, and these were the women they chose who gave them hell. Yes, I’m aware that some of these actions were fueled by the hand of men who let them down and broke their heart. But it's no point to carry that into your next relationship. Like I always say you don’t have to agree with me, but it has to be written. So, here are the top five wors…

The Top 5 Men to Avoid When Looking For a Relationship..

Writing these past few months has been hard for me. the words would flow, but in the middle of the article the story stop. But today I chose to share a story with you guys. When it come to the game of love everyone deserve a fair chance. Dating is a very good learning experience. You find out what you like and don’t like in potential mates, and you also get to know about yourself. The search for love can be frustrating at time, and sometimes, you'll find yourself wanting to overlook certain qualities in order to finally end the search. But, as someone who dated my fair share of men, trust me when I say that no matter how you try to look past it; it will always a thought in your mind if you made the right choice. Nonetheless, here I am back to share with you the worst type of men to date. Now, men will disagree with this list but seeing that a lot of women didn’t have any success with shooting their shot this summer I see that this list is needed. Therefore, here is my top five wor…